Hi ladies Jackie Wild here. A long time ago, 1977 as a matter of fact, I came out as being both a crossdresser and gay. By 1980 I started doing drag. I was barely 17 when I told my sister that I wore her clothes, shoes, and boots whenever I had the chance. I’d also begun accumulating quite a few things myself.

My bedroom had the extreme look of a teenage girl instead of a 17 year old boy. My mother constantly asked me whose makeup, nail polish, clothes, and high heels I had and who they belonged to. I would always come up with excuses for it all, such as my sister didn’t have enough space in her bedroom for everything, so she was using mine to put her things in, so I left it there, or I found it and was going to give it to my sister…blah blah blah. At the time, I always thought she bought my excuses.

The lies and false excuses were getting too much to keep track of. I used to tell myself to just step up to the plate and tell her the truth. The worst that could happen was she might go off on me and tell me to straighten up or maybe she would disown me and tell me to leave. But deep down inside, I knew none of that was going to happen. I was her baby and her only boy; all of her other kids were girls (five to be exact) so yes; I was the only boy amongst five sisters.

Some of this you already know, however, it’s all pertinent to this article so please bear with me.

I’d picked up some odd jobs here and there, like cleaning houses for two different elderly women, working at a salon sweeping and stocking products for a few hours a week, at a gas station as a part time attendant, and I got a little bit of money that my mother gave me every week for doing things around the house.

School as well, to put it lightly, was a bitch for me. There were those that did like me and didn’t say anything about the way I was or about what I wore. There were those that hated me and called me names like faggot, sissy, bitch and so forth. I learned to ignore them and go about my own business. Yep, I did wear girl’s jeans, platform shoes, sometimes girl’s shirts, my nails were long and cared for, my eyebrows were thin from plucking them, and I even wore light makeup. My hair was long and feathered and obviously more of a girl’s style than that of a boy.

I was kicked out of PE because the boys complained that I made them nervous when they changed in the locker room and I didn’t give it my 100%. That was okay for me because in my view, there was just a little too much testosterone in those boys anyway. Yes the names they mocked me with did fit to a degree. There was only one other boy in school that dressed similar, but he wasn’t as extreme as me. We became friends. After school and weekends, we would dress up together and exchange makeup and clothes ideas.

We hung out quite a bit together at school and on weekends. I had three other close friends who were girls and only a couple that were boys. My best friend was a girl named Angela. She would ask me sometimes if I were gay; I always told her no, but I could feel my face blushing as I said it. In 1977 it wasn’t good to be gay or dress the way I did. Our world wasn’t ready for people like me. I didn’t allow for it to deter me from being who I was. The first time I confirmed, or had strong feelings, that I was gay was when I met a guy in a gay bar parking lot. I knew it was a gay bar. I tried with all my heart to get up the courage to walk through the door, but I would always chicken out at the last moment. I was close to 18, but the law said you had to be 19 to go into any bar. I figured they would ask me for my ID and I didn’t want to be embarrassed to be turned down.

Just when I was pulling out of the parking lot, a guy came to my window and asked me if I was going in. I lied and told him I had already been in there and was now going home. He asked if I could give him a ride home and I said sure. Cutting the long story short, that same guy became my first boyfriend. I introduced him to my mother and two of my sisters as a friend of a friend of mine. I also introduced him to a couple friends, Angela and another close friend Ricci, who knew from the first second they met him that he was gay. It was then that I knew for certain that I was in fact, gay.

He encouraged me to keep dressing the way I did and helped me to realize that I was destined to be who I became. He taught me to recognize and feel what it’s like to be in love and to be loved unconditionally. With him by my side, I entered, and went through the door of that bar. Of course, I was in full drag attire, wearing lots of makeup. I suppose that, and the fact that he was a regular customer assured and bought my way through the door with ease. Once in, I immediately felt at home. As we sat down at a table, his roommate, who happened to be a drag queen, came over and introduced herself. I stood up and gave her a light handshake. In return, she gave me a hug and said it was great to finally meet me.

That night, I met several other people, and each one was so friendly that I couldn’t help but to feel grateful and excited. I was finally meeting other like-minded people; it was over whelming, but I easily made a decision that night. I knew I’d found where I was accepted and liked by many. It was also the place where I met my first drag mother, who showed the way for me and taught me many things.

If I have offended anyone, I apologize. I have helped many to be where they wanted to be, because I believe that’s what we’re supposed to do–help others be who they really are. I also firmly believe that we don’t wake up one fine morning and say, gee I think I’ll throw on a dress, heels, and makeup to become a crossdresser, drag queen, bi, or gay. Lady Gaga says it best in her top of the charts song, Cuz Baby, “We were born this way.”

I know for myself that it just came natural and I followed my heart. Things happen for a reason, and we all have destiny and fate waiting for us. It’s up to us to follow our hearts and trust in what we decide for our lives. Everyone has a place to be whether it’s a construction worker, a CEO for large corporation, a crossdresser, or a drag queen. We’re all here to be what we were born to be or choose to believe in. For those who have read this long article patiently, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I do get a little long-winded at times. One of the many things my first drag mother told me was, “Anyone can put on a dress, but it’s how you wear that dress that counts.” Jessica Rae, you’ll always be a part of my heart, RIP.

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  1. Mikki Barnes 5 months ago

    Thank you so much for your input.. I really needed that today. You inspire me.

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      Jackie 5 months ago

      ahh well thank you for the inspiration back. xo Jackie…..

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      Jackie 5 months ago

      Thank u Mikki I’m glad the article made your day. I think we can all inspire one another in several various ways. Like you Mikki, you inspired me as well and it’s people like you that remind me how much I love being who I have been and always will be. It’s completely our own decisions and some choices that we become who we are. Lady Gaga sings it best; “Baby, we were born this way.” Be well love, Jackie…..

  2. Sandra Stevens 5 months ago

    Jackie thank you so much for sharing your story. You brought me to tears as I truly feel it is so close to my life in many ways. I just wish that I were a strong as you were in your younger years. I come from a family of all boys and 1 girl my cousin. I wish I had a sister or was the sister but as you said in the 70’s it wasn’t easy to be myself. I applaud you and I surly draw so much inspiration from you. You are an amazing woman and and I’m so happy I found this site.
    Hugs to you girl
    Sandra

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      Jackie 5 months ago

      Sandra you made me run my mascara and eyeliner. But thank you so much just the same. My mascara and eyeliner are totally repairable but your words will last a lifetime. Thank u for reading my article, I always hope that if not the whole story will help someone but even if it’s just one sentence. Be well, Blessed Be, Jackie…..

  3. T.J. Byron 5 months ago

    LOVED your story…glad you are living a happy, fulfilling life.
    At 73 (October) I live every day to the fullest, never knowing if the next day is your last. T.J.

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      Jackie 4 weeks ago

      I’m now 57 myself (ugg) but my mind stays at 21, screw getting old. I seriously believe that if we stay young in the mind we still dress the way we always have and we allow the younger guys to keep us alive then we stay young!

  4. Jean Jeanie 1 month ago

    What a fantastic story, thank you for your courage and encouragement:)

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      Jackie 4 weeks ago

      Thank you Jean. It hasn’t always been as easy or fine as I would have cared for it to be but it’s been fun (and interesting to say the least)!

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