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I can't help but comment!
I do get out "Dressed" sometimes But rarely by myself-usally with wife& or friends!
I know That I'm going to be stared at& the occation comment(esp. when I'm dressed like a slut& kind of enjoy it!
It's not often I get really negitive things said-Sometimes people wil grab thier children & hurry off the other way(that is hurtful) But Many will let the kids ask me the questions they are afraid to ask-Like "why are you dressed like a girl"-I say-I like to play dressup& the parents& kids are happy with that answer!
I am quite happy to answer folks questions(no such thing as a dumb question)!
I firmly believe that We Crossdressers need to Educate the public whenever we can& that we should expect to be stared at (at least for NOW!!

People who live by unexamined values tend to see them as "natural" or "obvious," and people who don't fit in are subject to pressure to make them fit in. If that doesn't work the stakes get higher: shunning, hospitalization, incarceration, beating, murder... Not only does this help perpetuate the unexamined value system, it also serves as an outlet for unexamined and denied feelings. Those who don't adapt enough of the conditioning are dehumanized as unnatural, and therefor it is considered fitting that they should be subject to barbaric treatment. Perhaps the best solution is to surround yourself with a core group of intimates who support you as a feeling subject, rather than a correct subject. They're out there! Above all, our greatest strength is the joy we release when we live from our feelings. Smiles open hearts. Love, Chels

I often go out, alone or with another t-girl. Often I goto art galleries, museum, shopping centre etc. For me, I find families with children, less likely to cause an issue, in fact I've often chatted to parents, kids or elderly alike without incident.
The one negative comment came from a single male, trying to be tough in front of his male friend.

Some of us are out and about all the time and blend in quite well.I have never had a negative issue of any kind in many years.Most people don't understand the "T" mind at all so few know that it is something we are born with.Acceptance is growing worldwide as young people are grasping the idea that gender has a wide spectrum.Educating the young about this is a powerful step forward.

I have been living as a female full time for nearly a year. I live in a small town in South Dakota, USA where you'd think people would really cause a stir. Even the largest city in South Dakota, Sioux Falls, where my wife and I shop, take care of business, work, go to school, etc) She's even use going out with me fully dressed, with our without makeup. First of all, there are still a lot of people out there that are unaware of the LGBT community, and mainly Transgender people like us. In my opinion I look like a very ugly, masculine woman, but it is the best I can do, and after 40 some years of hiding and wanting to kill myself, I knew it was time to be true to myself. It was very scarey, and I saw the school counselor to help me get through the fear, etc. But I made it through. Yeah I get weird or nasty looks sometimes, but I learned I cannot let what others think stop me from being myself. F**K them if they don't like it! They can just look away or leave the room. I basically ignore those knowledgeable, ignorant people. And, I must say that as time goes by you get more used to it, and it becomes easier and you start to feel more comfortable and relaxed out in public. People think I'm brave. Maybe I am, but my only motivation is to be who I am, be true to myself, and not wanting to commit suicide all the time.
HUGS!

Hi! loving these stories of how tg/cd girls deal with the, "biased" opinions of the general public!.as for me have been a Cd girl for many years,dont get to dressed up often as woman,but when i do it is a very liberating feeling,and know that expressing myself as woman,is something that is truly withing me,and it is something that enjoy doing,as i see nothong wrong with expressingmy feminine feleings and desires!as for people,who feel compelled to voice negative opinios,i always think to myself:they are the ones with a problem,not me!

keep up the good work!!!!!
elisa michelle

Unfortunately it will take a while to undo the damage that thousands of years of religion and aristocratic rule have done to our "free society". Things seem to be getting better for us though. There will be a time someday when trans-people will be able to walk freely without judgement, we have to be patient though until then, as these ideas are very new to most people.

i weied way im kinda differnt my family dont like it but i went shoping because i went to woman section and was gonna purchase somethin i went to try it on in women section they stoped me wouldnt let me try it on i have done that in girls shorts though and have asked to try shoes on

Like someone said, xdressing has become more acceptable. Btw, always go "dressed" if you go girl shopping. If you go as a guy people think you are a freak or something like that. It's better being called "homo" than a perv.

I finally my mom and brother said they don't want me on there facebook my mom said cause she don't like the the questions her friends ask her the other thing going on is we tried to take over for new baby from cps they took them after we got temp guardian I don't know the laws but the case worker said they shouldn't have took her from us but gave our email facebook names away and there family tried to add us is this against the law

Hi!
As a crossdresser girl,who wants to develop more confidence in going out in public as a woman.I can totally relate to the difficulties other girls face,I share ahouse with an older brother and sister,who are not at all sympathetic to anyone who believes in an alternative lifestyle!whenever i go to a Club,or meet other "girl",always have toleave the house after midnight,when everybod is either asleepor watching television.would love to see a world where i could freely dress at anytime, and without hassles!!
regards
elisamichelle

I cross dress, I love doing it, I am not Tough, but I am Sensitive, I have been cross dressing most of my life, I believe I might be a bit sissified and a bit of a girly girl, I always get turned on and absolutely don't like my guy type clothes, but my family and friends would, hate and disown me , if they ever found, right now I am wearing little girl satin panties, ultra shinny suntan footed, tight fitting tights, a pink and white little girl's bra, a very shinny dark brown and tight fitting and lovely and beautiful ice skating skirt, a very small tight fitting long sleeved and very smoothed fitting little girls black turtleneck, little girl's soft pink socks, everyday I wear feminie under garments and sometimes my girly sissy outfits, under my regular guy clothes. I have a very large assortment of girl's / teen girls and young womens, skate skirts, panties, bras, tops, dresses, skirts, girl's socks and tights and nylons.

its a shame that other people redicule cross dressers that are brave to come out of the closet and be them shelvs. what is so wrong with dressing up like a woman or girl? woman do it daily and they are not rediculed about the way they dress! i am a closet cross dresser and my wife knows of it and my daughter does also, but she only seen me 1 time. not any other time when i do dress up. i love the feeling of female clothing, the look of being pretty and respecting woman on how long it takes to get dressed up pretty.when i dress up in female mode my fem side takes over me and dresses me from head to toe. make up perfume, jewlery, heels, bra, nylons, slip, dress. i love the look when she is all done making me look pretty. just wish i could go out in public as a female and flunt it.

Regarding the statement in the article "I was proud to see that the lady didn’t even react to us looking over but then I guess that is how you deal with any unwanted attention that you are receiving."

I am a trans-andro (trangender androgyne) and wear a mixture of "male" and "female" clothing on a daily basis, both at home and in public. I wear skirts and tights openly in public, often with either a T-shirt or male fashion collared shirt, or else wear up to 3" heels with boot cut jeans (male or female) and either a male shirt or female top, lthough my own preference is for something not too feminine. I also wear a little light make up and also nail polish on a daily basis.

I have a very supportive partner who, if she notices people staring, will give them the evil eye in return and if they are really giving me unwarranted attention - pointing, commenting to each other, joking about me - has been known to approach them and ask "Do you have a problem?". There hav been occasions when she has comented to me on someone's reaction and I've told her honestly that I didn't notice.

For many years I felt embarrassed and ashamed of my desires for dressing in a more feminine manner and only came to terms with this about four years ago at around the age of 50. When I decided to "go public" I came to this line of reasoning with myself:

Q. Who are the people that are important to me in my life?
A. My family and close friends.

Q. Do they have a problem with the way I dress?
A. No.

Q. Do these other people have any significance in my life?
A. No.

Conclusion: So why worry about the opinions of people who are of no significance to me?

The net result was that I classified these people as "Insignificant Others" and stopped worrying about their opinions and reactions. When I did this I also began to stop noticing their reactions. If anyone ever asks why I am wearing nail polish, I reply "Because I like it. Why should girls have all the fun?"

It may be that this gurl, who was relaxing in the Café on her computer and minding her own business, had developed a similar mindset, really didn't care what others may think of her and was intent on just being herself.

Good for her and more power to her.