Splitting with my wife over crossdressing

Recently, my wife (of 24 years) and I have been arguing a lot about my cross dressing. I know she can not stand it at all, and I have told her that as many times as I have tried, I can not stop dressing. She has had me purge many other times when she has caught me secretly dressing, and this time I won’t purge it. I don’t think the purging is the issue though, I think the fact that she found a photo of me in one of her dresses is really pissing her off. I personally think I looked better in it than she does, and that is probably one of the reasons why she is so mad. The photo I attached is of me in that dress, although you can only see the top of it.

Now, every time she gets, she throws it in my face and makes derogatory comments about it. I try to ignore them, but the more I do, the madder I get until I explode. Once she gets me good and mad, then she brings up other topics that we disagree about, and she knows she can get her way on the other things.

I am at a loss about what to do. Any advice that anyone has would be greatly appreciated.

Hugs to all.
Bobbi Anne

Ed: Bobbi, thank you for sharing my dear, my heart goes out to you and the pain you’re in. I know that many members have had rough experiences coming out to their loved ones, and balancing who they are inside with who they are expected to be. Please ladies, if you have any advice, guidance or encouragement for Bobbi, share it in the comments below.

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    Vanessa Test
    7 years ago


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    7 years ago

    I too have issues with my spouse over my cross dressing. We have been married over 40 yrs. I started when I was a teen but never had the opportunities to delve into it deeper until later in life. When I finally got on the internet and found out how many others there are that are cross dressers I though I had a solution to my years of thinking I was so alone. I decided to tell my wife about my desires several years ago, backed with some information I printed from the internet. It backfired , she called me… Read more »

    7 years ago

    Hi Bobbi Anne, So sorry to hear about your problems. Like you, I was married to a woman that tolerated my cross dressing after I told her about it approximately 8 years into the marriage. We agreed to go to counselling as she was finding it more difficult to deal with. During the counselling, it turned out that there was no way I could continue so I agreed to stop and got rid of all my stuff. We stayed together for another two years and, even though I didn’t cross dress during that time, she was constantly throwing it in… Read more »

    Holly Morris
    Holly Morris
    7 years ago

    Bobbi Anne, You’ve been given a lot of great advice by many of our sisters here. If I may, I’d like to add a little more based on my own personal experiences. I didn’t tell my wife until we had been married for more than 25 years. Of course it came as a huge shock to her to find out that her husband, the real man she thought she married had been carrying a secret inside for decades that I had never shared with her. The fact that it was crossdressing, which, let’s face it, is not a readily accepted… Read more »

    6 years ago
    Reply to  Holly Morris

    Holly, It is amazing that your experience is so similar to mine and that there are others out there that are like me. I only wish that my wife would loosen the strings to allow me to go to a CD meet up that are held in Washington DC. She knows I dress and that is what I do in my girl cave but still won’t accept it nor let me out of the house . I can look good and so ties very sexy and I would love to hook up with another CD so maybe it’s better that… Read more »

    Robert Eres
    Robert Eres
    7 years ago

    Hi Bobbi Anne I am also Bobbi. I am married and have 3 wonderful sons. My wife cannot accept my crossdressing either. We’ve been married for 27 years now, been separated on and off. Now, I live in our home and we are trying to raise our 7 year old. I have my own bedroom, as our sex life has completely diminished. I stay because when I was 6, my parents went through an ugly divorce. I do not want my little boy to not have his father around. Anyways, when I want to dress up, I have to take… Read more »

    6 years ago

    Hi Bobbi Anne So the way i see it is if she is allwed time in hairdressers,gym,shopping or for hobbies then you also are.. Crossdressing is just a stick to beat you with. A relationship is 50/50 as is a fight. So she doesnt need help as she is normal ? ( with anger issues ) You need help because u crossdress ( which isnt normal to her ) ? Think both of you need help with anger issues first because kids pick up on that also( not healthy) Yes we all have rows and issues as no marraige or… Read more »

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