My boyfriend is a crossdresser

You’re likely feeling a bit shocked – after all, this is unlikely to be something you expected when you entered the relationship. Your boyfriend was probably wracked with fear when you first found out, and it’s likely he didn’t tell you himself because he feared that you wouldn’t accept his crossdressing. He may be both nervous and eager to share more details with you. Don’t let him go faster than you feel comfortable with. After all, he has been dealing with this for years and you only just found out.

You shouldn’t fear that you’re in this alone – It is surprisingly common for men to crossdress, at least occasionally. Some estimates say that roughly 5% of men are transgendered. There are many organizations that help wives and girlfriends, we have a program on Crossdresser Heaven exclusively for significant others where you can find resources, support and encouragement.

You may feel many emotions, and may even surprise yourself by having fun together when he’s crossdressing. If that’s the case, go with it! Don’t feel like you need to conform to an outdated set of societal norms!

A great resource is a book written by Peggy Rudd called ‘My Husband Wears My Clothes‘. I’ve included a link below. This book was written by a woman whose husband is a crossdresser. Peggy provides insight, comfort and support for any woman who finds out that her beloved is a crosdresser.



  1. jerry carpenter 7 years ago

    Hey for all of you out there unlessyou have been there you just don’t know what it is like..
    i was born with cromozone imbalance or 2 sexed once you have been given an idenity by your parents …(instead of them letting you decide what you want they decide for you)that is what I have been delt .Not that I hate my parents they are good people my mother died from althzhimers but my dads still here It is they just did not know how to deal with it as we do today knowing what we kno about genetic structure … and there seems to be a more at ease responce to the issue . Whether you just crossdress or have been delt what I have It is getting better through education and understanding ,,,… dont give up on yourself ,,I never did

  2. Alicia 6 years ago

    Hi I`m Alicia I been cross dressing for a long time when I was 10 years old I started wearing my mom and sister bras and panties I stopped for a while but started again I spend a lot of money for clothes and women stuff then I say I am stopping I give it all away then I cant stop I start buying again with me I don’t feel I am male I feel female I don’t like getting dirty I sit to pee every time I was on hormones I been bisexual all my life but since I was on hormones I am turn on by men more then before my wife is ok with it she know I like men and lets me sleep with men when I want she is ok with it all she buys me clothes my panties its great well I was pretty lucky but I hope thing work out for you and wish you lots of luck Alicia

  3. Shannon 6 years ago

    My boyfriend came out that he was a crossdresser near the beginning of our relationship. I was open to it and thought it would bring us closer. He had been in a relationship for 15 years with the mother of his kids, and she did this for him. After finding out that he had cheated on me several times with her (because she was more accepting I suppose), I found it hard to do when he’d request it. I’ve always been more of a submissive girl, wanting a more dominant manly man. I do love him so much, but often wonder if I’m really what he needs. He’s asked to have a 3some with another man, and we followed through with it. He tells me he enjoys dressing up because it makes him feel sexy. I notice a big change in him whenever he’s looking fem. The way he walks, talks, and even looks at me completely changes. I feel so awkward at times. I have to play a role acting as if it’s turning me on, when in my mind, I just want to run for the door or make him stop. He means everything to me and his happiness is so important. I wonder if my discomfort should be addressed or I should leave him? Bringing another man into the bedroom was difficult. I only want one. I’m worried that maybe he finds me boring, or might be bisexual. It’s exciting having a man that is different from most, and I consider myself lucky. I just want the uneasiness to go away. Any suggestions are appreciated. We’ve been together 8+ years now.

  4. Brandy 3 years ago

    I have been married to a cross dresser for 15 years. We had been together for about 5 years when I found out.The only thing that pissed me off is that he hadn’t told me sooner He has dressed since age 15 so he was sneaking it to dress. Obviously he was the same man I fell in love with and loving him I wanted him to enjoy his life to the fullest. We went right out and bought him lots of cloth from panties and bra to slacks and blouses and dresses. I threw out all his mens underwear and had him wear panties under his cloths. Now at home he is almost always dressed as a woman. I have taught him makeup and how to act like a woman. I have the greatest girl friend and husband in one and have enjoyed it from the second I found out and let me add that our sex life gets better daily. Yes I said daily

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