Over the past few weeks, I’ve given a lot of thought to my other CD members here about the mindset comparison between us and them. I’ve concluded that how we judge women today, and in that we EXPECT them to “see it our way”’ and think as we think, is wrong.
So read along ladies while polishing your nails to the following editorial of my personal opinion. Comments are welcome either way.
I’m going to be 77 in a few months. Probably like many of you here, being a mature senior crossdresser, you too remember the golden age of the 50s and 60s when women looked and dressed in a much more feminine than they choose to today. This happened for a variety of reasons. It was the age of gartered stockings, girdles and under foundation, coifed hairstyles, and low to high heels every day. It was getting dressed nicely for office, work, church, or even going shopping downtown. It was the television era of Donna Reed, Father Knows Best, Harriet Nelson, and half a dozen more.
Like many others, I started secretly dressing in my early teens and by 15 to 16 was dressed and walking around in public in the neighborhood. I was a teenage girl. Oh, what a time it was…
We were all called “Transvestites” back then, and we had no idea what that term was or meant. Years later, it switched to crossdresser, and then came the new terminology “Transexual” and a half dozen other terms prefixed by Trans.
Today, from us admiring the use and wearing of makeup, skirts, dresses, wigs, and those marvelous stilettos we see it as the norm and in the excitement of expressing our femininity. We EXPECT today’s women should clearly want to do the same as us. They should see what they have missed and how they should and could look and dress better, according to our archaic ways of thinking. This is what WE Expect-and shouldn’t.
They shouldn’t and they won’t! Nor should we expect any female from their late teens to senior citizens to do so.
We are not them, and they are not us.
Today, the world of the 21st-century female is about wearing multi-ripped jeans, no makeup while out in public shopping, (save for lipstick and mascara), black leggings, or yoga tights. Sneakers, summer flip flops, sketches, or chunky ankle boots with 2” soles.
Not Our idea of how today’s woman should look –is it?
Well, it shouldn’t be. They were brought up in a different time, a different world, one with changing fashions, trends, and norms. …. I remember fondly 20 or so years ago when my “girlfriend” crossdresser and I would go out every Saturday night to an all-accepting CD-friendly neighborhood gay bar. We got to know some of the gay men and lesbian girls. One evening, I was shooting pool with this petite attractive lesbian girl who was fully aware that I was a CD, but it didn’t matter. I asked her a curious question: ”How do YOU FEEL if and when you dress up to the nines as a feminine woman in a dress or skirt, stockings, and heels?” Her reply … ”Like a Million Bucks!” ” That’s how us Crossdressers feel ALL THE TIME,” I replied.
So to wrap up this opinionated article; let’s all of us continue our own enjoyment of being our girly feminine self and thoroughly enjoy the life that we have chosen. The fabulous world of crossdressing!
And… let’s leave today’s GG’s alone and not EXPECT anything of them from our perspective of how they should and instead let them be who they are.
Oh you’re so right. I go to a local “alternative" bar/club here almost every Saturday night, many times on a Thursday for karaoke night also, and most times, except for another occasional cross dresser who might go as far, I’m the most well dressed, exquisitely dressed female there. I love dressing up to the 9s, and I have a strong tendency towards that classic 50’s look. In fact, I just got a poodle skirt to wear tomorrow. Always a dress or skirt, stockings, heels, usually 4″ but occasionally 5″, nice jewelry, in today’s crowd it really stands out. It’s just… Read more »
I just love dressing up in my skirts, usually mini’s ,but some maxims in cool weather. The ear rings broaches, pearls, face all pretty, bralette, pads panties hose almost always black, and low high heels. Wig rounds out the total effect, and I’m happy, and feel pretty, and love being seen. I can go almost anywhere and pass well
Love to come across some other"girls", but not so far. Try.a new gay bar tonight !
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Hello Meghan, I also grew up in the fifties also. My mother never in her life owned a pair of jeans, as I can remember. She was a housewife and did work as a cook and still wore some sort of dress to work. She liked to look nice. Every Saturday till she passed, went and had her hair done. I still remember, my older sister would dress me in can cans and I loved it. She would do my hair and the whole bit, so I think that is where the bug came from. I have always loved makeup… Read more »
@lillie
Indeed, the 1950s & 60s were a time when girls and women wore dresses and skirts, petticoats, girdles, and stockings, as well as high heels. Makeup and fancy hair styles were normal for girls and women. It was a time when females looked very effeminate.
Fortunate for me I spent many days crossdressed and became proficient in the female arts, thanks to a couple of female mentors.
Peggy, I remember being sent for hair spray from our little general store, with rollers in.
Very effeminate!
@Lynne Sobe Really? Rollers in your hair! Do you recall what you wore on your way to the general store?
@conniech Connie, yes I do. It was winter in the north, put on coat and pulled up the hood, tied it tight and hoped no one could tell.
Lynne
Peggy, you are so proficient in the female arts! Could you say a few words – or more – about your early days and your mentors? Just curious. Your mentors were highly effective. I love reading your posts, comments, seeing your beautiful pictures ! 💐
Hi Connie, I was fortunate to have two teenage girls living across the
street from me who were very influential in helping me develop my female self. Our cub scout pack would put on plays and skits as fund
raisers, and I would always volunteer to play any of the female
character parts, which I had no problem being selected for, because
I played them so well. Many good memories!
You are so proficient in the female arts! Could you say a few words – or more – about your early days and your mentors? Just curious. Mentors were highly effective!💐
@Connie Wittnee
I had No mentors Connie, in my 60 years of crossdressing, it was all self-taught. looking at women’s glamour magazines, trial and error and learning along the years. I’ve been going out publicly cross-dressed since I was 15. It’s had its ups and downs from the early years of being ‘reae’ to no oe batting a eye, even secretaires in office ladies’ rooms that I will be standing next to to fix my makeup and touch up my wig and do a girl-to-girl chat at the vanity table.
Meghan, such an important, timely article and advice from you, thank you! You must have developed a passable feminine voice along the way in sixty years. And that picture of you !!! Where is the Meghan CD? I see a woman. 💐🌹🏆.
It is truly sad that today’s women feel that they do not have to put in much effort when going out. Look back at old films or just video from those days people no matter their status tried their best to look good when out. I guess I am lucky to have a lady that will not leave the house without being done up. And that she fully accepts me as Vicci.
@viccipark
Yes, I agree totally. Thats why I found it necessary to voice my nonjudgmental opinion of the golden age of femininity of yesteryear.
We can still dress pretty the way we want, either publicly or privately (as long as we subtly blend in) and don’t stand out in a crowd overdressed for the occasion or where we are.
Meghan
She fully accepts you as Vicci! 👏🏼💐
@Meghan Brandice yeah,I think you and I understand this but not sure about the young crowd. My partner said to me today while shopping, “ Did you buy the pj set today? It’s so you!” I replied no, maybe another time. She was right. It was animal print with big sleeves with Maribor sleeve ends and pant leg ends. So Marilyn Monroe style. Something I would usually jump at but never her. She’s just not that kind of girl. She likes nice stuff, just not the sexy styles. I never expect her to be like me in styles and vice… Read more »
I will always wear gartered STOCKINGS! I’m an old-fashioned girl who will not give them up. To hell with pantyhose
Oh I have agenerous supply of stockings as well at home but while travelling, I often just wear pantyhose as it’s easier with less fiddling about.