You’ve been telling yourself for weeks that you’re going to do this. Debating with yourself, arguing with yourself, justifying why you didn’t go this weekend. Every time it ends with a promise that next time, next week, next month will be different. Yet somehow things don’t seem to change. You find that wearing your feminine finery at home doesn’t seem to satisfy a deeper longing inside you anymore. For a brief moment you wonder, “Am I cured?” Of course, you already know the answer to that question.
What stops you from crossdressing?
What stops you from crossdressing?
I don’t mean just crossdressing within the safe confines of your own home. I mean going out crossdressed for the first time. I mean gathering up all your self confidence and strutting out the door looking the best you ever have. Boldly going where very few other men have gone before.
Today I’m going to share a few reasons why you might be putting off such an important step, and how you can overcome your barriers to crossdressing.
You have nowhere to go: This is probably the number one reason why people don’t go out crossdressed – because you don’t think that you have anywhere to go, somewhere that is safe, where you won’t be recognized, and someplace that you can enjoy. Just before my transition I used to spend every weekend in a park just round the corner from my house. It was my sanctuary. I was able to be myself for a few hours, enjoy the sunshine with little fear of being outed. It was a safe place for me, and helped me build my confidence to go other places. You might find a local transgender meeting group (also a safe place), or a transgender friendly club or restaurant (your local transgender organization will know of a few) or if you’re fortunate enough – with a group of your friends who are accepting.
You’re afraid: Fear comes in many forms. Fear that you’ll make a fool of yourself, fear that someone will recognize you, fear that you won’t pass and get into trouble. Since I have readers from all over the world it’s worth noting that you should take the time to understand local laws. Generally across the US, Europe and Australia it is not illegal to crossdress. The biggest antidote to fear is experience. Do it a few times and you’ll gain confidence. Spend a few hours en femme and you’ll build the habits and mannerisms that serve you well as you venture further out. Most importantly, start with a place that feels safe to you. Take baby steps.
You look horrific: Honestly sweetie, you don’t look that bad. This is a legitimate worry, since learning to be feminine takes time and practice. Even then many ladies aren’t blessed with the figure to pass there are still things you can do to improve your chances of passing in public. I’ve known many wonderful ladies who didn’t pass, but held their heads high and walked down the street like they belonged. Confidence is the difference between someone pointing and laughing, or someone coming over to chat with you because they find you generally intriguing.
So what stops you from crossdressing?
Hopefully with the few examples I’ve given you, you can see that it’s not the world that stops you from crossdressing, but yourself. Take a moment to think about what’s been holding you back, perhaps this weekend will be different…
Are there other reasons I missed? Please comment and let me know what has held you back, and how you overcame it. This will be a blessing to others just starting out!
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P.S. Thank you to all the ladies who responded with their crossdressing success stories! I received them, I’ll reply individually soon. If you’d like to share, please submit your crossdressing success story.
This site is so helpful in so many ways . Keep up the the good work !!
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Think this is a brilliant page, keep up the good work. i am a part time transvestite/cross-dresser & do go out dressed, but choose where to do it. Also try to get to a tranny night as often as possible in a city not too far away, but can’t always get as is expensive when have to factor in hotel cost. Think Another reason that can hold people back from coming out of the tranny closet if family, worrying what they will think.
I must admit since I came out of the tranny closet a couple of years ago, people have accepted the new part of me more than I can ever imagined, & I do not regret coming out one bit. I feel so proud to be a cross-dresser, & in actual fact, think in some circumstances people have warmed to me more, especially may be the ones that, thought I was a bit more serious, especially since I currently work in security & used to be a doorman. Granted though the women seem to accept this part of me more than the fellas, but even my male mates while shocked & surprised, they are ok even if still have a laugh every now 7 again which is OK!
Keep up the good work, let us in this community keep educating the wider world of this life style/gender.
To previous reply, we men who cross-dress do so primarily because we like women clothes, & there is usually a hook. for me the hook was High Heel shoes, which I discovered at around age 11 or 12, when looking threw my mums catalogue. I don’t feel that women should have anything to worry about, if their man reveals to be a cross-dresser/transvestite (different words for the same thing)as this does not mean that he is gay. If anything, I think that its makes us more Heterosexual in a way cus another part of this world, is that we tranny’s often admire women & not just their clothes. The way you women move walk & talk & look, so much so we want to emulate it. Its almost like for me anyway, getting up close & personal with your girlfriend/wife is not enough, & you want to experience what its like to be a woman for yourself with out having a sex change, cus thats a whole other board game, but at the same time they are some things you don’t want to experience as a cross-dresser, if you are straight anyway. Like in all other walks of life & sub cultures, you get a variety of different people, & while they may be a few from the rain mack brigade, most tranny’s from my experience are just regular guys, that like to dress up occasionally or some time full time. Remember there is a difference between Transsexual & Transvestite, as transvestite Is just another name for Cross-dresser & transsexual is some who has had sex change for various reasons & not always cus fee as though born in wrong body, as i know of a transsexual who just felt more at ease acting femme & always got treated as such so with his parents support he eventually had re-assignment surgery.
So come on girls if your man tells you that he wishes to partake in this way of life, don’t be freaked out, cus some where down the line some female role model may be inspired him rather than Arnold Schwarzenegger, and that person who inspired him may even be you!
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