Before I get too far into my very first article on here (I do hope you enjoy it), I would like to briefly provide some information about myself.
My name is Jacinta and I have been crossdressing for less than 12 months, not long before joining this great community. I am very new to the scene, so last year I did what any new person to the community does – shop like there is no tomorrow! Unfortunately, in my shopping spree, I ordered some items that were too small for me – this includes dresses, bras and panties (I underestimated my true measurements!).
2022 was not a great year for me as it was stressful and terrible, which put a toll on me both physically and mentally, and led to not sleeping well, not eating right and putting on weight; I was at the heaviest I have ever been! At the end of last year, I decided that I am going to change my outlook on life, in particular with regards to my body. For about 10 years, I have been insecure about my body/look. Whilst I am not obese, I am slightly overweight. I wanted to have a body that shows I am fit and healthy, which will boost my confidence. I have tried this in previous years, but have failed very quickly; however this year is very different!
One of the few highlights in 2022 was embracing my feminine side and starting to crossdress. I don’t get to do it enough as no one close to me knows (as I only dress in private), however, when I get the chance to dress up – I feel so happy and feminine.
As I still have the items I bought last year that were too small for me, crossdressing has given me the extra boost to continue to work hard to get that perfect body! Whilst my male persona wants to have a chilled six pack, Jacinta wants to go for a more feminine look with skinny legs, an hour glass figure and of course a nice looking backside! As Jacinta is now part of my life, I am following her direction. This includes lots of cardio, squats and lunges at the gym.
It has been about one month since I have started to look after my body (going to the gym, eating better etc), and I am just starting to see the weight slowly coming off! While it may be only a couple of kilos (or pounds depending in what the part of the world you are located), I feel like I am starting to get over the hump, and I feel it comes down to wanting to crossdress and be more in touch with my feminine side. I am hoping to reach my target weight goal and hopefully that will not only allow me to finally be able to wear those clothes that have encouraged me to lose the weight, but it will hopefully give me the confidence to venture out into the world as Jacinta.
Hopefully there will a part 2 to this article as part of my life in 2023! I appreciate you taking the time to read it and I would love to get your thoughts and opinions on this.
I hope this year is a perfect year for you all!
Lots of Love,
Jacinta xoxo
It is an awakening, isn’t it? My own personal experience had me shaped like a pear when I started…it was the motivation for me.
Keep it going now. You are working every day to create a better version of you. And remember…you are only competing with yourself.
Be blessed.
Thank you for those comments Dani. It is much appreciated. It is definitely an awakening!
Anything that motivates a person to live a healthier lifestyle is worth it in my book. If dressing is that motivator then so be it. Enjoy a healthier you and your new found passion.
Thank you JJ.
Hi Jacinta thanks for sharing your story with us, that’s exactly what i need to do lose some weight and start exercising to help with keeping the weight off, if you look at my physique i look as if I’m 7 to 8 months pregnant i would love to have a flatter stomach I’m not too bothered with having a 6 pack just a flatter stomach will do, it’s getting started that’s the problem X
Hugs Rozalyn X
No problem Rozalyn. I hope that this article in someway helps to motivate you! The first couple of weeks is the most challenging but if you can stick to it, you will feel better each day!
Yes sis it has always been a motivator to me to keep the belly flat so I could wear more sexy things and pass as a woman. I do go to the gym too and do lots of cardio as well as sit ups to maintain. Nothing worse than putting on a bodycon dress or crop top and seeing the a belly stick out. My crossdressing has kept me in shape and is part of the blessings of it
Thank you for sharing this as well Deborah. Such a big motivator!
Congratulations! I’m always happy for people who make positive changes! Keep going and don’t give up. Growth and improvement are what life is all about.
I think I should also point out that female workout clothes are SOOOO much more fun than men’s stuff. I find that even if I can’t get dressed up for work, I can still enjoy an early morning run in pink tights or something!
Thanks Sarah. I did purchase an matching women workout outfit that I really like! At this stage for me, there is no way I would wear it to the gym but at home – no doubt! When I find my own place, anything that I want to do at home, I will be wearing this outfit!
Jacinta, I could not agree more. About ten years ago, I had gotten to my heaviest at 213 pounds; my adult average was 166 lbs. I changed what I ate and how much and by late 2015 I was down to 190 lbs. Then my feminine side came to life; not that the weight loss was the cause. As “Brittney", I lost another 10 lbs 6 months later. After another year, lost another 10 lbs. I now stay between 170 to 175 lbs. By standards, I am still considered a “plus size" “gurl"; but I am happy with where I… Read more »
I appreciate you sharing this Brittany. That is the plan is to get to a weight that I am not only look beautiful but I am happy with it as well. If crossdressing is helping to reduce my stress levels and make me a better person, why would I stop now? It is like with anything in the world, something may be seen as bad to a large demographic however when you look more closely, you can see the benefit and no question crossdressing provides so many benefits to everyone around the world.
Congratulations! It seems you are off to a good start, it great to have crossdressing as a motivator. It has motivated me to lose weight as well. I want to be the best looking woman I can be. And if I never have courage enough to come out to anyone I want to be the best looking best dressed man that I can be.
Likewise AnnaBeth. Thank You.
Hi Jacinta,
Congratulations on keeping to your goals! Remember your goals should be forgiving too. And also realistic.
Hugs, Alice
Thank you Alice. I appreciate it.
Loved your article! I wish I wrote it as it is me too!! Don’t know why, but I totally value the time I get to spend as my femine side. It just feels right. Love my wife and appreciate the time she has given me to be me. Wish I could share my other side more, but that is the limit that my wife has set. Best to ya and hugs.
Thank you Patie.
Good luck and persevere.
Melissa Sue
Thank you Melissa.