My wife has struggled to accept my transgender nature over the last few years. I know that she tries hard and loves me a lot, but at times she treats Vanessa as an unwelcome interloper in our marriage. As much as this hurts me, I know that my gender confusion causes her just as much pain.
I think the most difficult thing for her to handle is my uncertainty – I don’t know how far along the path to womanhood I need to travel. At times I feel that nothing short of complete transition can still my spirit. Yet just as quickly love for her wells up inside me, and I cling to hope that perhaps just a bit further will leave me satisfied.
At times it feels as if we battle each other almost as much as I war against the confusion raging inside of me. Then in a moment the gray skies clear to let in the sunshine of peace.
It’s one of these moments of crossdressing acceptance I want to share with you. It came as a complete surprise just a few days ago and still fills me with joy.
Loves Transcends Transgender
A few years ago my wife bought me a beautiful jewelry box for Christmas. It was to hold my growing collection of feminine adornments. A year later I decided to quit crossdressing once and for all. Though I foolishly threw out all my clothes, I (more wisely) gave my jewelry box to my wife.
It didn’t take more than 18 months for me to realize that once again my well intentioned purge would crash against the rocks of my nature. So slowly, as budget would allow, I began replenishing my wardrobe and the accessories to complement my outfits.
Now, there’s nothing quite so tacky as to ask for a gift back. Especially since my wife had made productive use of the jewelry box I gave her. Since my earrings and necklaces were homeless I mentioned to her that I’d need to buy a new jewelry box. As a couple we tend to buy things slowly, so a few weeks passed without me giving this another thought.
Crossdressing Acceptance in a Box
A few days ago as we’re winding down the evening my lovely wife presented me with a wonderful surprise. A homemade jewelry box! Complete with felt lining and a colorful high heel adorning the outside.
I almost cried, but I think I was overcome with the shock of joy that I just hugged her. It was like a crossdressing Christmas in July.
I know my transgendered nature is hard on my wife. Even amidst the struggle her love for me shone through. I am truly blessed to have someone who cares so much for me. Someone who is willing to wrap her gift in a priceless treasure, and fill my jewelry box with love.
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