Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.
In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.
The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?
Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.
You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.
Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started. So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!
Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.
I love all of my Crossdresser Heaven girls. We all love, support, and encourage each other! This is the best crossdressing site on line by far! We are extremely lucky to have each other to talk to and lean on for advice, stories, tips, knowledge, and help!
I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.
The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.
I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!
Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.
Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.
With much love, XOXOXO
Scarlett
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I would like to meet if possible other crossdressers so we could have a nice chat together
I too would like to make friends and chat
You gave me a lot of tips bout being able to get my stuff back in order… my ex threw all my feminine clothes away I had such a Awesome wardrobe.. I believe that she was jealous of my ability to dress sexier than her n because she showed her lover pictures of me dressed n said that I was more sexy n hot.. he is black and I have let it be known that I like black cock but when I ordered a double headed black dildoe and got caught dressed up in lingerie and heels and I was… Read more »
About buying me all the gifts I have been dreaming about.. hell with everyone else it’s my turn .. after my ex threw all my feminine clothes I had a great wardrobe going on.. every thing I wanted to have.. sexy lingerie and sexy dresses and heels stockings and some make up a wig n my pictures of me dressed up and also videos I have made myself .. Bitch it’s all good because she found out that when her lover came to California to see her he came over to my place thinking that she lived there.. he has… Read more »
I am new to the site! Love you girls;) How do you convert a mans shoe size to a womans?
That’s a good question. With me it’s just a half size difference. In men’s shoes I’m a 10 and 1/2 and in female shoes I’m an 11. I got real lucky because you can find heels, boots, and ankle booties all day on line in size 11.
Sincerely, Scarlett
I love the pictures you post! You are always so happy and carefree. You just shine!
Thank you Mia! That’s such a sweet thing for you to say to me!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Time is on your side.
Thanks Trisha! Have a very Happy 2022! XOXOXO Scarlett
I love you nails in this picture and you dress is so Pretty
Thank you Paden! My nails and lipstick will always be a really red! And thanks for loving my dress!
I really like this article, I never thought of it that way but even though I wanted to wear fem. clothes from an early age I always tried to look “sharp" as a male, as I still do.
Good for you Martina! We are on the very same page as far as looking sharp as a male!
I love your article it fits my own journey in many ways I was always put together well and still do. I’ve never liked the term drab, although I have never been totally Fem, I do mix things and have get some nice compliments from other women.
Thank you for your response Chloe and sorry it took 3 months to get back with you!
I never liked the tern drab either!
Sincerely, Scarlett
S8nse I came to the reality of being transgender and have started educating myself, I find there few terms derogatory terms that have become normal in in the LGBT drab, tranny, gay, home…….. I feel we need the address this sort of negative reinforcement and get rid of it.
Ooh and thx hun for writing back
Chloe
You’re more than welcome Chloe!
Hi Scarlett.I
My name is Christine and I’m realatively new here on CDH.First thing is your beautiful,inside and out. Second,I absolutely love this article! You remind us to stay well dressed when we’re in our ‘Handsome husband’ mode.super great job well done and i’ve learned from that. Thankyou,Christine T
You’re more than welcome and thank you for sending me such a sweet note.
Sorry it took six days to get back with you.
I’ve been saddled with a bad back and stress fractures in the metatarsal bones in my feet from an injury which happened in the gym I go to.
Stay sweet and thanks again for the compliments on my looks and the article!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Thank you for your reply Scarlet.I’m also healing from an operation a few weeks ago. Hope you heal quickly.Hugs Christine
I hope your operation was 100% successful and if you had any pain, it’s going to be long gone!
My healing has gone way more slowly than I thought it would. We are about to go past six months and that’s just with the feet~
XOXO Scarlett
Thank you so much Scarlett. All the best to you!
You’re more than welcome Christine!
XOXOXO Scarlett