,

Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.

In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.

The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?

Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.

You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.

Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started.  So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my  style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!

Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider  whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.

I love all of my Crossdresser Heaven girls. We all love, support, and encourage each other! This is the best crossdressing site on line by far! We are extremely lucky to have each other to talk to and lean on for advice, stories, tips, knowledge, and help!

I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.

The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.

I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!

Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better  shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.

Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.

With much love, XOXOXO

Scarlett

More Articles by The Author

The following two tabs change content below.

Scarlett398

Latest posts by Scarlett398 (see all)

Tags:

61
Leave a Reply

24 Comment threads
37 Thread replies
0 Followers
 
Most reacted comment
Hottest comment thread
25 Comment authors
Carla JonesScarlett398fiona mossCarolyn KayDavina Evans Recent comment authors
  Subscribe  
Notify of
Davina Evans
Lady

Just read this post. Very thought provoking. I have used Drab since being on CDH and you have changed me as I will not use this word again in that context. From now on “Male Mode”.
Thanks Scarlett,
Davina

Carolyn Kay
Lady

Hi Scarlett, I responded to your article and you wrote me back. Your response made me think a little more about the whole drab idea. Like I told you men’s clothes are not exciting at all to me. However, after your response it made me reassess. I went out to a function this weekend and instead of just throwing on a suit I made it work. I bought a salmon color shirt, a tie with multi colors is salmon in it, and a new jacket. I took some time to get ready and off I went. One of the first… Read more »

fiona moss
Ambassador
Active Member

Wow! Scarlett, this is almost an article within an article lol. Definately very thought provoking and i can relate to many of the things you said in your reply to one of our members. Thanks for sharing and oh! enlightening us all!! 🙂

Fiona xxx

Carla Jones
Lady

I never really thought of myself as drab when in guy clothes. I always picked out colorful shirts to wear, such as pinks, light blues and other colors. I would match the shirt with a cami that looked great under the shirt. Really the only item that I considered “boring” were the shoes but kept them clean and neat. I did wear women’s pants quite often because they fit me better than the male trousers. Even in male mode I tend to wear feminine fashions that are closer fitted with darts and other sewing that allows it to fit better.… Read more »

Subscribe To Our Newsletter

Subscribe To Our Newsletter

Join our mailing list to receive the latest news and updates from Crossdresser Heaven.

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Log in with your credentials

or    

Forgot your details?

Create Account