Most women don’t forget their first bra.
The first bra is a unique and special experience: in addition to reinforcing the bond between mother and daughter, it marks a transition to adolescence.
More than that, it is one of the first steps for a girl to become a woman: the bra is a garment that only women wear – there is no similar garment for men, boys and… girls under 12 (no) 11 (no) 10 (no) 9 (no) 8 years – yes, they are starting to use earlier and earlier. Perhaps modern life is helping their development.
But how do we have to deal with this memory – or lack of it?
Most of us didn’t get a bra from our mother (or someone else). We had to run after one, often hidden.
A boy who has the urge to try on a bra and asks his mother for a bra will certainly have his request refused.
In my case, when I was 11 years old, I noticed that girls at school started wearing bras. I was curious about that piece that only girls wore. I have a slightly older sister. One day, at home alone, I went to her room and found a training bra. White, plain – with a little bow between the cups. I wore it and I fell in love. I had to learn to adjust the straps and button it in the back.
Although I don’t have it anymore, I remember it perfectly.
I don’t know if that bra was my sister’s first bra. What I did know is that my first bra wasn’t my first bra. It wasn’t mine, they didn’t give it to me. I just borrowed it on the sly and I should return it to the owner’s drawer.
Despite that, whenever I could I tried on that bra – and others. I remember the first black bra I ever wore, the first pink bra I ever wore, the first padded bra I ever wore, and even the first lace bra I ever wore. All were my sister’s.
Some of her bras I managed to “deflect” for me. She believes to this day that they were donated. I managed to hide them and sometimes I even went to school with them.
After a while I managed to buy my own bras – but I’ll get to that in a moment.
But many boys had the opportunity to receive a bra.
At events like Halloween, womanless beauty pageants, punishments or other games, boys have already been given a bra to wear. In this chance, some boys fell in love with the bra.
Amazingly, some mothers have already proposed and even given a bra to sons with gynecomastia. This is perhaps the closest recollection of most women’s experiences of the first bra.
Many spend their teenage years wanting to try on a bra – with luck, some manage to try on their sister’s, cousin’s or mother’s bras.
Others have to wait until adulthood to get their own bras.
The first bra I bought for myself was a black lace bralette with hooks and lace straps.
I remember when I bought it and it is one of my favorites and I still have it today. Over time, I built up my collection of bralettes, push-ups, black, white, pink, blue, red…
Our memories are an important part of our life. Our first bra is definitely part of that.
It doesn’t matter if you were presented with a bra, if you borrowed it from your sister or if you bought it yourself: the first bra we never forget!
– Do you remember the first bra you wore?
– Do you remember the first bra you bought?
– Would you like these memories to be different?
I’m looking forward to the answers
Sincerely,
Marie Claire
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Hi! Love the article. I remember the first bra I wore was my sister’s as well. I grew up with five brothers and five sisters. I snuck a bra out once in awhile to feel how they felt on me. I was usually caught by my brothers and beat up for it, but it never stopped me. My first time I was about six and saw a pretty pink and white training bra. I couldn’t resist trying it on when I thought I was alone. I even started trying on the panties they wore. I finally learned how to do… Read more »
Thanks. I’m sorry for the attacks you suffered.
Oh yes I remember my first bra. I was 10 years old and went shopping for school clothes with my mom. I went into a dressing room to try on pants and shirt that my mom had picked out hanging on a hanger was a beautiful light blue underwire bra and matching panties. After trying everything on that my mom had picked out I went back on to put on my clothes I put the panties on first and then the bra and then got dressed I still feel guilty to this day that I stole them. But alas I… Read more »
What an incredible experience! Congratulations on having a supportive wife!
@Marie Claire the first bra I wore was a pink one I literally found on a street. I took it home, hid it, cleaned it when I had the chance and when circumstances prevailed I put it on. That is when my switch flipped.
The first bra I purchased was a white longline. I kept it for years and would now like another. I soon became comfortable buying bras and have been doing so for 50 years.
Congratulations! Most men who try on a bra actually flip the switch!
A week ago, I would have said, “that’s pretty incongruous", but not today.
I went for a walk a went through a tunnel. There on a guard railing was a C-cup black bra. Huh… 😳
No, I did not take it home.
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@Harriette I would have my dear.
The first bra I wore belonged to my mother. It was probably white with lace trim, something that I still prefer to this day. the first real bra I purchased was a white nylon unlined soft cup with 1/2 inch lace trim around the cups. I was telling girlfriend Ria earlier that I was looking at images of women in lingerie and up came a PG Rated photo of 80’s erotic film star Christie Canyon wearing the exact bra. I harden thought about that bra for years. Of course she was wearing a different cup size than this girl!
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I love lace too!
The BRA!! The BRA!! The Glorious BRA!! Favorite  item by double! Anyway, like so many others, my sisters supplied me with bras (unknowingly) for many years! I’d step into the bathroom where the clothes hamper was for the whole family and just stay in there for a very long time! Who knows what they thought I was doing in there for so long but I bet that didn’t cross their minds! (Pun intended) And then like someone above mentioned, I lifted a few from the apartment complex laundry machines I lived in when I was 19. The first bra I bought for… Read more »
Long live self-checkout!
The first bra I bought for myself was only last year. I still have it, along with plenty of others! The first one I tried on was one of my sister’s, which must have been about 1985.
Congratulations!
@Marie Claire Wow Girl this hits me where I live! This was my first clue that there must have been some kind of mistake!! It was taboo, but it felt sooo right that this is what was my goal. To grow up and out in the bossom. I have always felt like the little girl waiting for my boobs. My first was my Moms Platex longline “Cross your Heart" bra. It was silky soft and as indestructable as one of those old Denny’s waitress uniforms! lol The first I bought wasblack, of course. I wanted to be sexy, but for… Read more »
Thank you very much!
My first bra was one my wife had tossed out. I had tried on moms when younger and always knew I had another feminine side to me but the macho male won out and those feelings were highly suppressed but at times would flood to the surface. And then I found her bra in the trash bin and fished it out. When I put it on the feelings and memories flooded back and were so intense. A few months later (after hiding and sneaking around) I came out to my wife about dressing. It has been wonderful ever since.
Good!
Nice writing! I remember the curiosity when I see my female classmates wearing camisoles. I was wondering what they were wearing under the outer clothes and from observation, I knew that only girls wore those. While being curious, I didn’t ask anyone about it, be it an adult or classmate, I just knew it was a sensitive topic. I don’t remember when I first wear or buy a bra. I just remember the first one that I wore was my mom’s. It was a plain, basic color one, no frilly or anything. I even wore it upside down. It took… Read more »
I never buy female underwear again in a store, and now it’s just guessing and online. After all these years, I still feel ashamed of this whole ordeal. Please, reconsider this. It is no big deal for respectful sales clerks (if any aren’t respectful, don’t give them your money) and, because of a possible language barrier, maybe that struggle led you to a wrong conclusion about what happened. So, to get back in the saddle, arm yourself with a cloth measuring tape and an accurate list of your measurements. The tape doesn’t lie, so you can start correctly selecting clothes… Read more »
Thank you for your encouragement. I wear breast forms so I’m kind of embarrassed to buy a bra in store. I can take the measurement right to some extend, but to know how a bra looks like and which shape it will support right away before buying must be great…
@Yuuri Koyama Start with the easy stuff, say, a skirt. Basically, you only need two measurements: the waist and its length (we will assume that you have a male butt). Measure around the narrowest part of your waist (again, presuming your waist is a bit narrower than your hips). Zip up your best fitting pants/skirt/shorts at home now and measure straight across the closed waistband. If you have a 36″ waist, then your best fit will be about half of that. That gives you a starting point, to compare to a waistband in a store. Smaller (somewhere around two inches… Read more »
Thank you!
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I can emphasize with you about buying female underwear in a foreign country. When I first bought my female underwear in Japan it was very difficult as when I went to Wacol and triumph stores, The clerks asked if it was for my girlfriend and they were wondering why I was there. I ended up buying female underwear on Amazon Japan because it was too stressful to do it in person in Japan.
@Ichiro Kobayashi oh my god… I have the same experience too. Because of my nervousness and being unintelligible, it even took two clerks to serve me. In the end, they looked confused and frustrated. I bought 1 bra, it didn’t fit at the end (haha)
@yuko5634Â
I know the feeling as when I did go Wacol and triumph stores after stressing myself out with the clerks. I bought the wrong size panties and from then on I decided to buy all my female underwear on Amazon Japan or in person at a shimamura co. ltd store before closing time.
@Ichiro Kobayashi Somehow I think there are more choices when buying online (even if it’s the same brand). In physical store, it’s hard to get big-sized items. I once bought some clothes at AOKI Style in Akihabara. The experience was extremely awesome. The clerks were helpful (maybe because they were at the most open-minded area?). That was the first time I had the chance to buy a fitting stockings (I’m still using that brand, it’s Cutie Style on Amazon JP).
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Yeah I realize that buying online in Japan is better I used to buy my buruma especially fashioner bloomers in Akihabara back in the day but now I buy Galax Bloomers from Amazon Japan or Rakuten.
The one bra I will absolutely never forget was one my mom kept in the very back of one of her dresser drawers.  It was a black, longline, strapless bra that was more like a corset, that was designed to be worn with a strapless evening gown. It was a front closure with both hook and eye and zipper. It fit very snugly, but almost perfectly on my adolescent boy’s body, and it had a wonderful perfume smell. Absolutely magical!