Hi everyone.
Life with a crossdresser is like climbing a mountain. You climb that mountain and you get to the top and there’s a cliff. Do you turn around and walk back down? Do you sit there and ponder and worry, or do you jump into that world with them?
Walking back down could mean you don’t accept this behavior. Maybe, you just can’t wrap your head around a world that isn’t conformed to the norm. It feels like a taboo. Some can deal with it and others cannot.
You sit and ponder about it possibly giving the whole idea a chance. You ask yourself if you can deal with this type of “fashion” on a man you love or care about. Does this type of behavior make him any less of a man? Will your relationship change? I cannot say for all couples what the outcome will be. But I do know that being open with your feelings and insecurities is a good way start for both involved.
Taking that jump you’ve decided to give it a go and see where it goes. This can be a scary idea and choice. But it may be an exciting new world that you never thought was out there. It led to new ideas of dressing and how to spend time together. You embrace a new way of enjoying life with your partner.
Life is way too short to worry what the neighbors will think. They have their own oddities as well, I’m sure. Who cares. Having a partner that is open enough to let you in on this way of life shows they trust you to know about the crossdressing.
So you’ve climbed that mountain. Did you walk back down? If so, have you walked away from that person or are you still willing to try? Maybe you just need to take a minute to get to that pondering stage. Work things out in your head and with the other person involved. Do you want to stay friends or walk away entirely? That really is a hard question to answer when it comes to someone we love and care about.
You’ve walked, climbed, sat, and pondered. What choices have you made? How are you feeling about the whole crossdressing? Have you come to terms that it is a way of life for some or you just can’t live with a partner that wears nontraditional clothing in the eyes of others?
I have done that climb. Yes, there have been times (at the start) that I wanted to not walk but roll down that mountain. Get back to where things were “normal” as fast as possible. Then I sat and did some pondering. I thought to myself, so he likes to wear nighties and panties. So, he looks better in a skirt than I do! At this point my mountain became a molehill. I had gotten over the taboo for the most part. I still had issues. The crossdressing in public – again, I pondered this idea. Trust me, it was a long process. I came to the conclusion if he was brave enough to wear it in public and I love him, then I needed to be brave as well.
Life and love go hand in hand. I believe if you love someone you will take those extra steps up that mountain to at least try to understand them. When the climbing is done, that’s when life together can begin with a lot of communication and work.
So in conclusion, before making a judgement of why someone wants to crossdress or why anyone is different, think. Walk, ponder and communicate. You could be losing something that you may never find again.
Venus
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Thank you for sharing your insights. I think we all need to be aware of how expressing our feminine side affects the ones we love. It would be so much easier if this was not a part of our lives. The fact is we need this side of who we are. I do not dress to hurt my wife and if she choses to not be a part of this side of me I understand. I wish I could share my feminine side with her, be a close girlfriend would be so wonderful. I wish she could be accepting. My… Read more »
Thank you for writing this article. And I really liked the imagery. Me and my wife have started the communication phase of this. Although I like to show her more info. She doenst have the bandwidth to take on more at this point in our busy lives. I happy where we are currently and when other barriers are no longer in place I will definitely share this article with her. Thanks again.
Venus … I loved this. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Hugs, Ellie x
Hi I am Brianna I am all ears when you think you are on your own.you desperately want to tell someone it’s so hard time and time again and the years fly by the children grow up and your ageing together .it’s a strong bony based love respect . Sometimes just a little you think brother sister love the feelings get stronger you can’t hurt who you love you just can’t . I feel I so feminine it hurts suppressing the guilt I have to sign off love you all
I love it! Well put. If our significant others, would read this, even if they are kinda open to it, it may swing the door all the way open, and not just cracked open. Mikki
thank you posting this. real females need to read and understand the cross-dressing world we live in! we just like to dress up at times and be happy, stress and depressed free. female clothing is so much better fit and colors and style and fabric. wow in men clothing there is not much to see or buy, jeans and shirt oh wow big deal. boring. Female clothing has a large selection of colors, style and fabric. my wife knows i dress up but will not let me sit in same room as her, she does not understand why i like… Read more »
You are so right. Up until the late 60’s a female wasn’t allowed to wear jeans or even pants. Look at the females of today. Most don’t even own a dress.
you are so right about that. they don’t even wear make-up. so, what is wrong with men wearing a skirt or dress and make up since real woman will not wear them? society today is woman dress like men and do work like men, so why can not us girls do woman work and dress up and no one will blink a eye or call us names
I’d love to see ALL significant others to accept their partners, for who they are.
ah me too i would be in heaven. don’t forget neighbors and friends to accept us as we are dressed up
My cross dressing has been the reason for both of my divorces, I just can’t control myself when I dress up, I wind up plucking my eyebrows super thin & highly arched, piercing both of my ears & I even colored my hair just so I would look more feminine. My last ex wife left me after she caught me taking her estrogen pills, she said she knew the whole time we were together that I wanted to be a girl, she said she thought our marriage would end when she caught me being with another man. I was very… Read more »