I have always known my husband was a crossdresser. I think it makes my whole perspective a lot easier to deal with. We met online, and for months we did window shopping online, together. We would look at dresses and female clothes. At first, I thought it was weird. But… it became our normal. I didn’t ask why he was shopping for woman’s clothes. At first, I just thought he was trying to be cute or accommodating to me, like finding clothes he thought I would like.
Then one day, he said, “How do you think that would look on me?” I kinda giggled to myself and responded, “You’d be adorable in it.” I thought to myself… what the Hell dude, but I went with it. When we first met, face to face, he started throwing lingerie at me from a suitcase. I won’t say that I wasn’t surprised and a bit baffled; I was intrigued by what was happening at that moment. When asked why he had a case full of woman’s things, and do you always carry pretty things with you for women to wear? He smiled in his quirky way and said, “No. These are mine. I wear them.” He proceeded to show me more.
I have to say I was hooked. Here was a man who wasn’t afraid to show me who he was. He likes to wear woman’s clothes from underwear to dresses. Does this make him any less of a man? Hell no. My husband is a hundred percent man, whether in jeans or a dress. It doesn’t change who or what he is. He doesn’t want to be a woman or classified as one. He just likes to wear feminine things. He says it makes him feel free. He no longer has to hide who he is. A man that wears woman’s clothes.
He has had to hide it from many people throughout his life. Some; still to this day. I am fine with his choice of clothes. Shoot. He has helped me get out of my funk of dressing more like a guy, as it was easier to throw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt with four kids and a busy life as a single mom. He has opened my eyes to once again to being a female, one that wears more feminine clothes.
Having a crossdressing partner is not always easy to deal with. I have had times when I have asked him to dress like a guy and not a girl. I just want my manly-looking guy. The one that looks great in a tight pair of jeans and a T-shirt. The one that makes me drool over how the jeans fit his tush. I do not think he is sexy looking in a dress, a skirt, or a frilly nighty, too. Let me say… he rocks quite a few of his nighties and outfits, even with his hairy chest showing through. lol
So… those of you wondering why, how can I deal with this? Why is he doing this? I had all those same thoughts. I asked him why? His answer was and still is, I do not know. I just know it makes me who I am and makes me feel good about myself. So, the way I see it, he’s not hurting anyone. It makes him happy. Therefore, that makes me happy. I may never understand why. But does it really matter if I do or don’t?
We’re happy as we are…
OMG!!… He is so lucky to have found a woman like you! I should be thankful that my wife didn’t through me out the door when she found out I crossdressed. She has always been tolerant of it and has given me the alone time I needed to enjoy my escapes from masculinity. I’m thankful for this but always end up feeling guilty that I have this desire and need to feminize myself from time to time. Nothing would make me happier than to have total acceptance from her. I’ve been crossdressing almost my entire life and I know what… Read more »
I agree, I told my wife after 10 years of marriage. I thought my femme side was gone. Obviously I was wrong. My wife was shocked. I tried to stop and almost committed suicide. Balance became my keyword. She has only seen me enfemme in a pic once. All she said that she didn’t like it. Recently we both admitted to each other that we wouldn’t have married each other if we had known about Terri. We are married 51 years and have 5 children and 9 grandchildren. I could never leave her.
Hello I’m Venus’s husband
When I meet her I was at the point in my life where I didn’t care anymore who knew or who found out.
I was in my late 30s and I said “F" it. If she runs she is going to run. So I pushed the CDing extra hard to try to get her to run.
She never ran, instead she stayed.
We been blessed ever since and it was the best for the both of us
Hippie
Yup. You’re stuck with me.
Hello, I am Cari & I am married to Joanne. I don’t know if it is the same for everyone who has married a cross dresser but my husband has made it impossible to have a normal marriage. He is dressed as Joanne almost 24/7, he keeps his eyebrows plucked into thin, arched lines, he has had his ears double pierced & I can’t remember the last time I ever saw body hair on him. He tells me he wants to be a woman & be with men but he does not know that I know he has been going… Read more »
Hello Cari. I am truly sorry, this is happening to you. The way I see it, your husband has clocked out. If he wants to be with men, then I am again sorry to say, let him go. I understand, you do not have the money to move out. You could contact a woman’s shelter in your area. What you are going through is a type of abuse, if you ask me. It is a form of mental abuse. There are programs through most shelters, to assist you in getting a job ( if needed) along with finding and helping… Read more »
@Joanne Watters I am so sorry you are going though this