A number of years ago, I got over the idea that I could only express my feminine nature by wearing only skirts and dresses and added women’s trousers to my wardrobe. It only took a few styles to convince me that there was a world of difference between men’s and women’s trousers. The texture of the cloth and the cut are decidedly different. One of the things about wearing pants is that many styles are masculine cut and can be worn when my presentation is masculine. I started wearing women’s jeans exclusively and then found a pair of slacks that would look nice with my blazer or a sweater.
By adding pants to my wardrobe, and certain styles of blouses, I can go anywhere and be around anyone, even those to whom I’m not out, dressed in totally women’s clothes. Thus, I fulfill my need to express my feminine nature and yet still interact with my friends as a man. What’s more, my wife, who’s very cautious about me expressing my feminine nature, is quite OK with this.
Now here’s the interesting part. A couple of years ago I broke my leg and had to wear shorts everywhere. I only had women’s shorts to draw on. Actually, only two pair and only one of them had the masculine cut criteria but the other really pushed the envelope. The first pair that I wore to church had a faux fly and had the look of men’s. However, my wife had worn them to the church picnic the previous summer. My wife and I decided that if someone noticed that I could point out I had the broken leg and use the “temporary” need of shorts as an excuse to “borrow” her shorts. But no one even blinked. Well, you can’t wear the same clothes all the time, so I pressed the other pair into service. They had not the evidence of a fly and had hidden in seam pockets but most damning of all was the fabric. It was a kind of knit that would never be seen in men’s clothing. Relying on the “excuse” I boldly wore them to mid-week service at church. Again, no one blinked.
After that my appetite for more feminine pants was wetted. I did away with all my men’s slacks and began to wear only my women’s pants everywhere. I tried out wearing my pants that had no hip pockets at all and purchased some that had the fly going to the distaff side and got no reaction. To cut to the chase, I determined to push the envelope to what I felt was the max. I purchased two pair of side zip slacks. NO FLY. One pair is khaki, the same color as the slacks that I’ve been wearing most often to church on Sundays, and the other is black. I had been wearing the black pair with the feminine fly to midweek service most often. The khaki pair has the zipper inside the left pocket with a button on the left hip and the new black pair has the zipper hidden in the left seem and only has decorative small patch pockets on the front. Since we are a bit casual at our church, I don’t have to wear a tie to fit in, so I’ve worn either a sports shirt or a masculine cut blouse, both un-tucked to make the lack of fly less noticeable.
Well, I’ve got to tell you, wearing a pair of pants that make no provision to stand up in the restroom, is very satisfying. There’s just something about that aspect of femininity that makes me feel whole. I think that’s part of the attraction to skirts and dresses. Yet wearing women’s trousers, I get the same satisfaction.
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I agree completely. The fabric of woman’s trousers is much more comfortable and the cut much more stylish. I almost always wear woman’s trousers now and have never had anyone comment. I only wish that they made the pockets a little deeper, at least until the man purse is more accepted.
Wow I do not know if i could be that bold I envy your courage. I will agree though i own 4 pair of jeans and one pair of caprices and I love the feel the fabric. Just takes getting use to buttoning them up on the other side. : )
I almost always wear woman’s jeans when I go out, but still have been wearing drab black jeans for work. I have been talking with my wife about finding woman’s jeans that I can “get away with" at work. We plan to go shopping soon. Your article makes me even more determined. Thank you.
whenever i go out shopping, i just want to enjoy the day and fit in with the other women. so i always wear pants and always find that some may see me as gender neutral or even as a guy but the women who are there to shop like me, seem to know that we bought our clothes in the same stores. a girl can always tell when another girl is wearing something that you saw in one of the usual mall shops that women our age shop in.t and we are all usually aware of what is being shown… Read more »
Just a few weeks ago, I fell in love with ‘Girl Jeans’. My first pair was from a consignment store and cost about $2.50. I bought them on a whim, as I thought they would fit. — The secret in the fit was the lycra component woven into the fabric. — When I got the jeans (size 16, low rise, boot cut) home and tried them on, they fit PERFECTLY– even more so when I wore then with a padded fanny. (I am 6′-0" and weigh 210 lbs. waist size 38") I actually had the audacity to wear my new… Read more »
I love this article so much, Thank You for sharing…This Opens Up a whole new world for me too…I Love Wearing womans slacks…ages ago I bought a pair at a thrift shop unknowingly that they were womans…I Love the way theyu fit…made me feel sexy and functional…Just never really thought about them until reading this article and writting this comment…Thank You for paving the path
I always wear women’s jeans, they are tight and look fantastic. I get a lot of compliments. But what I actually live in is capris. They are very femme and feel great. Bought a nice g-string to wear under and show a flat area between my legs. Also a great item to wear open toe sandals with.
For the pocket issue, I use a sewing machine to extend pockets. I sew a lose pocket, cut open the seem or just cut the existing pockets open and then sew the lose pocket into the pants just like attaching an arm to a shirt or dress. Initially I did this all by hand, but now having a sewing machine makes it a lot faster and better end result than sewing pockets by hand.
Really enjoyed all of your articles. Finding this commonality is very important. I appreciate your courage .
I tried ladies jeans about twenty years ago and was not impressed in the fit or the feel, two years ago I thought I would give them another try, and was I surprised to the point where I wear them all the time. Men’s jeans chuffed my legs in the hot weather and I found the waist band very uncomfortable. The only thing I use my old men’s jeans is to paint in and soon to end up in the trash
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