A number of years ago, I got over the idea that I could only express my feminine nature by wearing only skirts and dresses and added women’s trousers to my wardrobe. It only took a few styles to convince me that there was a world of difference between men’s and women’s trousers. The texture of the cloth and the cut are decidedly different. One of the things about wearing pants is that many styles are masculine cut and can be worn when my presentation is masculine. I started wearing women’s jeans exclusively and then found a pair of slacks that would look nice with my blazer or a sweater.
By adding pants to my wardrobe, and certain styles of blouses, I can go anywhere and be around anyone, even those to whom I’m not out, dressed in totally women’s clothes. Thus, I fulfill my need to express my feminine nature and yet still interact with my friends as a man. What’s more, my wife, who’s very cautious about me expressing my feminine nature, is quite OK with this.
Now here’s the interesting part. A couple of years ago I broke my leg and had to wear shorts everywhere. I only had women’s shorts to draw on. Actually, only two pair and only one of them had the masculine cut criteria but the other really pushed the envelope. The first pair that I wore to church had a faux fly and had the look of men’s. However, my wife had worn them to the church picnic the previous summer. My wife and I decided that if someone noticed that I could point out I had the broken leg and use the “temporary” need of shorts as an excuse to “borrow” her shorts. But no one even blinked. Well, you can’t wear the same clothes all the time, so I pressed the other pair into service. They had not the evidence of a fly and had hidden in seam pockets but most damning of all was the fabric. It was a kind of knit that would never be seen in men’s clothing. Relying on the “excuse” I boldly wore them to mid-week service at church. Again, no one blinked.
After that my appetite for more feminine pants was wetted. I did away with all my men’s slacks and began to wear only my women’s pants everywhere. I tried out wearing my pants that had no hip pockets at all and purchased some that had the fly going to the distaff side and got no reaction. To cut to the chase, I determined to push the envelope to what I felt was the max. I purchased two pair of side zip slacks. NO FLY. One pair is khaki, the same color as the slacks that I’ve been wearing most often to church on Sundays, and the other is black. I had been wearing the black pair with the feminine fly to midweek service most often. The khaki pair has the zipper inside the left pocket with a button on the left hip and the new black pair has the zipper hidden in the left seem and only has decorative small patch pockets on the front. Since we are a bit casual at our church, I don’t have to wear a tie to fit in, so I’ve worn either a sports shirt or a masculine cut blouse, both un-tucked to make the lack of fly less noticeable.
Well, I’ve got to tell you, wearing a pair of pants that make no provision to stand up in the restroom, is very satisfying. There’s just something about that aspect of femininity that makes me feel whole. I think that’s part of the attraction to skirts and dresses. Yet wearing women’s trousers, I get the same satisfaction.