Crossdressing in pursuit of the perfect feminine figure

It’s happened to all of us. We finally pluck up the courage to purchase an outfit of our very own and spend many days or weeks admiring our new femininity in the privacy of our home. The feelings of elation seem to touch to the core of our soul as we see the woman inside us come to life. Yet after a few weeks something happens.

We observe that the dress doesn’t hang right. The sexy blouse seems to gape in an unattractive way. Even in the dim light of evening we struggle to describe our hourglass form as such. The elation of those first tentative steps are replaced with a low grade despondency a frustration at how far our form is from the perfect feminine figure.

Enter Crossdresser Body Shapers

With some guidance from fellow crossdressers, or a few keystroke search over the Internet we find the answer to our feminine figure frustrations – body shapers. The most obvious starting place is, of course, breast forms. Of all the things missing from our bodies breasts are the first and most obvious we notice. Breast forms do the obvious – creating the appearance of real breasts, especially when carefully concealed behind a blouse or dress that masks their artificial nature. There are many places to purchase breast forms – in fact you’ll find a link to the Breastform store at the bottom of this page – but your figure firm ups don’t need to stop there.

As you know woman tend to have larger hips and curvier bottom than men. The balance between larger hips and smaller shoulders gives woman the desirable hourglass figure. As long as you don’t make the mistake of wearing a top with shoulder pads or copious gathers around your shoulders you’ve done about all you can do for your shoulder size. Your bottom half, however, presents an opportunity to further your feminine image. Hip pads and bottom pads are body shapers that many crossdressers use to balance out their wider shoulders, and give the appearance of a curvier, hourglass figure.

To take the illusion to the next level you can wear a corset, which makes your waist smaller through the painful application of a smothering force around your torso. Oftentimes you can take 2-4 inches off your waistline with a corset. Just be careful not to tie it too tight – it’s no good looking fabulous if you’re passed out on the floor!

Vanessa’s Body Shaping Routine

I must admit that I’ve found over time that I prefer fewer enhancements than more. Perhaps it’s just my desire to feel comfortable, or maybe I’m just fleeing from the struggle to keep those breast forms attached and happy. When I’m out with jeans and a tshirt or blouse I’ve found the lack of breast forms doesn’t make much difference as to whether I’m read or not. I’ve had less success going breastformless with dresses, or certain blouses that hung uncomfortably empty without them.

I generally don’t use hip or butt shapers – though if done right they can look fabulous. I haven’t worn a corset for a few years – for now I’m focusing on slimming my waist through diet and exercise. Once I’ve taken that as far as I can I’ll give the corset another try.

What about you? What’s your crossdresser body shaping routine?

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  1. Petra Bellejambes 8 years ago

    Dear Vanessa,

    I kind of wish there was a simple on-off switch that would provide the shape and help the dress drape right, but alas, I need to use the full battery of artificial helpers. I make all the layering up a part of my mental immersion, to help keep the dressing ritual special. It is quite pleasant to notice the changes throughout the dressing process.

    I am sure it will be lovely for you to witness the more gradual and lasting changes to your shape that the healthy routines and the hormone treatments bring about. Enjoy every moment.

    Cheers – Petra

    • Vanessa Law 8 years ago

      I love you analogy Petra 🙂 It's good to remind us of the magic of the transformation – the transformation itself is a beautiful journey (whether it's permanent or temporary with aid from body shapers) – I know I sometimes tend to get overly fixated on the end result, which I don't think is too healthy

  2. Carolyn Ann 8 years ago

    There are plenty of styles that don't require shapers. Just as there are plenty of women who don't conform to the hourglass ideal! It took me a wee while, but I finally figured out (with help from the Mrs) that I can look good in things that don't emphasize my lack of figure. Although I do like the occasional figure hugging outfit; I just avoid mirrors, so the illusion isn't destroyed! (I also don't exit the house in them. But that's for a different reason… 🙂 )

    I must admit, when I think about shapers, I think of how restricting they must be, and how hot. Not enticingly hot, either. A wig is bad enough; I'm not sure I want to be gently (?) basted by my undergarments!

    Years ago, I was fortunate enough to have quite an hourglass figure. Age and it's companion, middle-age spread, put paid to that a few years ago . 🙁 These days, I try to wear things that look nice, and don't rely on the wearer having an hourglass shape. 🙂

    (I still look like a guy in a dress, however.)

    Carolyn Ann

    • Vanessa Law 8 years ago

      Accepting your shape and working with it – what great advice. Even genetic woman struggle when they try to wear clothes not suited for their body [In particular I'm thinking about the girls I saw recently wearing jean shorts – really short jean shorts, and their build was not flattering at all to such attire]

      • Elizabeth 7 years ago

        Yesterday, while in the grocery store, I saw a genetic woman wearing a tee shirt dress over a pair of leggings. Not an uncommon attire, and she had paired the colors nicely, BUT – she had terrible cellulite lumps in her upper legs, and a protruding stomach fat roll. I sometimes wonder what people see when they look in the mirror. She could have easily hidden those flaws with something more gently fitted. I have good legs, but I ride a bicycle daily, so have large thighs, so I avoid tight pants and short shorts. For me, loose capris work well, and show off my calves and ankles.

  3. Lynn Jones 8 years ago

    "All of the above" – bar corset…. no… wait a mo. I guess shapewear counts as one 🙂 I do pad my hips as I think it helps dresses or skirts sit properly. I don't think they sit right (on me) without them and as you say, they can help balance out your shoulders.

  4. Vanessa Law 8 years ago

    Struggling with the heat is a big downside of body shapers. Especially if you tend to sweat – it doesn't smell good, and can have not so flattering consequences on your makeup 🙂

  5. Leslee 8 years ago

    I wear relaxed fit cloths but I have a fairly proportinate trim figure. I have been doing pilates for 5-6 years which I feel has helped trim the mid line down. My work is very physical which also helps with the figure. Now I need a little help with my eyes and neck line. Doctor, is my appointment next week?

    • Vanessa Law 8 years ago

      Hehe 🙂 I guess we could all use a little help somewhere. Good for you for keeping up with the exercise! It's the best kind of corset

  6. annnnne 8 years ago

    When I am dressed as a woman I want to have sexwith a man

    • Philys 7 years ago

      me too

      • Georgina 3 years ago

        Me too, men really turn me on when I am dressed.

  7. rogina garter 7 years ago

    As an out and about girl,I like to blend.Now living in S Florida,I decided while unpacking that I had to lessen the amount of undergarments to handle the heat better..Instead of my all in one shapers,I will wear a short girdle as well as my padded[butt and hips] panties,bra and forms.I find now that nude thigh hi's in a very sheer wt,are almost undetectable with sandle style wedgies as the nail polish shows through easily,yet the legs have good color. I don't think some of us need a really big butt to match our bigger shoulders.Choice of clothing can tone down that proportion,

  8. Falecia McGuire 7 years ago

    As I read about the body shape objective, I better understand why I enjoy crossdressing so much. Years ago (been at it 50 years) I used to use more enhancement products. Then I went the fitness route along with cinching my waste within comfort generally when I work out. I seem to have developed a more feminine shape. My hips appear broader in comparison to my waste although they have become slimmer as well. I never dress to pass because my wife does not want me to lose my body hair. But I frequently wear entirely feminine/female clothing while presenting as a male. I am off to the grocery store right now in low rise GAP jeans with a wide web belt buckled on the left side and a tight ultra-light long sleeve t-shirt. I have a long-line body shaper under it all to tighten my waste about 5 inches above my jeans. I'm not fooling anyone – they know these are women's clothes. Besides, I am wearing 4 inch high wedged sandals on my feet. I don't mind the stares – I just feel good in these clothes.

  9. Madelaine Rose 7 years ago

    I use mostly breast forms and the Very occcasional butt or hip pad panties. There's an all in one molded one that looks great in jeans! Rarely wear butt enhancement except jeans and short tight skirts-which I don't wear out of the house. Otherwise I tend to rely on fit of clothes, an approriate sized belt to accent my waist (though I am 39 to 40' all over, with the breast forms I still maintain the illusion of shape. Breast forms-vary the size depending on how I feel. Despit e being 5'10" I often find I like the more petite and demure breast enhancement. It works with everything, and draws less attention to myself in public. Recently I've started wearing larger forms and find they are actually more appropriate or typical of GG girls of my weight and height.

    One big tip for you breast form wearers-that I picked up from another girl from her site-if you want to keep cooler and avoid sweating-put your breast forms inside of nude knee high nylons!, Surprisingly they provide just enough separation and circulation to almost eliminate sweating. And it definitely reduces chaffing and discomfort-despite being a man made fabric. It works great!!! Try it!

  10. seha 7 years ago

    when I dress , i shy myself because of my beauty and feeling great satisfaction

  11. seha 7 years ago

    when I dressed I want be with man or women, to receive comments and appreciation love me as a queen. where can i get hip pad and  breast forms , suit to my size and color and how remove mustaches permanently pleases. advise 

  12. avalana 7 years ago

    it is very hard for me to find any shoes that fit well, either m or f. perhaps it’s the eeee width! masons shoe catalog is one of my faves

    • seha 7 years ago

      In Some some, they will take size  of  your legs, and they will make as per your width, pls. check in the shops 

    • Vanessa Law 7 years ago

      Have you tried Zappos?
      I’ve found they carry quite a few large widths. A quick look – there is 6E
      and even 9E available in some styles.

  13. SexyLayne 6 years ago

    Can anyone please help me. I am a fourteen year olf male crossdresser. I have many problems I need help with. I have a dream of becoming a pilot in the Air Force. But I feel like cross dressing may get in my way since the military needs me to be tough. Plus, I havent even told my mom. I know she will be supportive and all, but I am affraid that then my crossdressing will become part of my life. And an air force pilot cant have that happening. Also I am a failure at crossdressing. I look at a woman in a playboy magazine and I think “Oh I would love to look like that” but I cant. And I barely do it. All I do is just wear makeup in private and panties in public. The two reasons why is that A: I cant drive so the closest place to get panties or makeup is my moms closet. But Im not going to do that. Plus her style is WAAAAY different from mine. And B: I dont have enough money to go buy a skirt, shoes, breast parts, or anything for that matter. And if I did I wouldnt know how to. So if anyone can help me, please do. Thank you

    • dorthy 6 years ago

      when u get in military its good to get a car u can stash it in wait till ur roomate goes out then u can dress once u buy something dont be afraid if someone ask which they ussaly don’t they asamed to bring it up most of them dont even stare go out weekends get a motel or something then got a good 2 days of it a week i feel taking away dont ask dont tell is gonna lead to voilnce like before

  14. Patricia Marie 6 years ago

    I wear two different sizes of breast forms depending on what I’m going to be doing. At work and at church (where my wife refuses to indulge me) I wear what amounts to an A cup size in sports bra. It’s enough for me to enjoy having breasts, but no so much as to cause people say, “Wow! He has breasts. The rest of the time, around home and out and about, I wear a C cup form in a mastectomy bra. Noticeable, but easily missed in the right clothing. I wear the “right” clothing when my wife is going to be with me. The rest of the time I wear things that are as feminine as I feel at the moment.

    I don’t usually try to pass, however, I often do because I’m where women go and I’m doing things women do wearing obviously women’s clothing. I’m just an ugly old broad out and about to the people who see me. (At my age, 67, I can get away with that.) People at the grocery store and my bank know I’m a man and act as if it’s normal for me to dress the way I do.

    Likewise, my doctors, a primary care physician and an endocrinologist both have had me turn up in their examining rooms totally en femme (including make up) and not even blinked.

    I’m fooling no one really. I’m just being me and acting as if I have every right to do it and no one person wants to challenge that right.

    To SexyLayne: Don’t worry about cross-dressing becoming a part of your life. It already is. The best you can hope for from here on out is to bury it for a time. Don’t ask, don’t tell is dead. If the Air Force needs to run a security check, list cross-dressing as a hobby. If they know about it, there’s no problem. You can’t be blackmailed if the person that would be told already knows.

    If you can’t bring yourself to that, then you can’t be an Air Force pilot anyway.

    If you’re really sure your mom will be supportive, then tell her you have a need to explore your feminine side and let her show you her support. She may want to put limits on just what and where, so be a good kid and respect her authority. ;o)

  15. Margaret stewart 6 years ago

    Nice website finally an outlet to share our femeninty . As, I write I’m engoying a night in femme. With a wow! Of finally a lil encouter w/ others. Anyone to reply, I’m new to this .

  16. Rijeana 4 years ago

    I like what you have to say greatly,
    I have bought a few dresses & lots of high heels, from 1inch to 5inch but still hav to get some sexy thy high boots with 4 inch heels I think, but probley get them in 5 inch,
    I have just dressed & never thought much about butt & thy implants but I think im going to try it out,,,
    I just adore a sexy hip area around a female,,,
    I have been dressing for 3 yrs now & am Bi , so life is just beginning for me,,,
    Thanks RiJeana

  17. Falecia McGuire 3 years ago

    Good Morning
    I am intrigued my much of the information on your site. I am a virtually lifelong crossdresser. I can remember trying my mother’s, sister’s and aunt’s clothes and accessories in my early teens. I am now retired and eligible for social security. You can do the math. Nevertheless, I have for some years been experimenting with my writing. I have entered essay contests and have just self-published a children’s book. A great deal of what I have written has related to my transgender feelings. At my age, I am not embarrassed to admit that I am a crossdresser, but have kept it from my children. I do it privately or with my wife and there has been no need for them to know. I am not concerned about any internal conflicts.
    While I struggled as an adolescent with my sexual identity – who doesn’t? I came to grips with my crossdressing before I made my career and marriage choices. I never had any homosexual fantasies or inclinations. I knew I loved women. I also knew that I fantasized about looking like a woman in clothing and accessories. I am not unhappy being a man. I just like to play at being a woman.
    From my first reading of Dr. Blanchard’s theory of “Autogynephilia” I felt that much of it did seem to describe my behavior. I did enjoy dressing like a woman, fantasizing about passing as a women and being seen in women’s clothing to extend that I can pull in off. How do I pull it off? I occasional wear women’s clothing items with my wife, I have masqueraded at parties and I very often wear virtually all female clothing while presenting as a man. Most of my jeans are in women’s sizes. Many of my shoes and sandals are designed for female wear. I frequently wear foundation garments that slenderize my waist and give me a female shape. I have remained slender and fit, partly motivated by my desire to fit into women’s styles that appeal to me. And finally, in my workout routine – mostly running, I generally wear fitness outfits in women’s sizes.
    I do not feel distressed in any of this behavior. I feel that this is who I am. What I do feel is euphoria. I have been running long enough that I have frequently felt a runner’s high — the euphoric sensation attributed to the release of endorphins. I often feel that same endorphin release while crossdressed. When I am both running and crossdressed, I feel wonderful.
    This has been a synopsis of some of my journey. I am currently working on a novel about evanescent transformation. To add a sense of reality to the piece, I will reveal much of what I have truly experienced in my life as a crossdresser. I will also cite studies and theories that have genuinely been a part of the fabric of the transgender community.
    Falecia McGuire

  18. petra frederica 3 years ago

    what is a girl who wants to Dress up but no one to be with.

  19. lilian 3 years ago

    I’m doing a lipocavitation, with good results.

  20. I look in the mirror everyday, like Dorothy looking into the Crystal Ball for answers. And I weigh myself every day, looking for the magic number that I have set as my goal to achieve the body shape I was born with. I work hard to get there, and have still a few pounds to go, like 10 or 15. I run on the treadmill or hike on it really steep, to burn those calories, every day. 400 to 1000 calories. Then I lift weights or do other floor exercises to enhance my buttocks (glutes) or Hips. I am trying to minimize my arms and back, by lifting light weights. I eat a relatively clean diet of whole foods only. Very little processed foods enter this body.

    I am seeing results. Shortcuts, such as corsets and shapers, often leave undesirable bulges at the periphery and those are even more difficult to hide. I have learned to purchase clothing that enhances my femininity without bringing attention to my deficits. In this way, I can feel sexy or pretty, and rock it, without working so hard to hide it.

    Soon enough, by working hard as a woman does to keep her weight in managed control by dieting and exercise, I will be just like every other woman that has a handle on strict control of her body. Many runway models are as tall as we are (im 6’1″) and do not have oversized breasts or huge hips. So the notion that there is ONE female figure is silly. We all can have somewhat female figures by using proper gesture, balance, posture, and poise. Those go a long way. The manner in which your gait is delivered, or how you hold your hands and arms while walking, and so many other things. How expressive are you with your hands and facial features. How do you stand when still, how do you carry your handbag? These go a long way to feminize and create the illusion of being a woman. Lets face it, if you could dress like your favorite hot female starlet, but walked like a troll, would it matter what you were wearing?

    So, Practice practice practice. Observe Cisgender women. Observe their hands and gestures, postures and poise. Watch what they do and how they do it, like sitting into a chair, or even better into a car. Do you keep your knees together? Do you lower your body with your legs? Are you feminine? How do you brush your hair from your face, with your hand, or with a two finger stroke? Do you OVER DO IT? These are the things that will make you.

    Back to the topic. Women in general seem to have issues with weight, more so than do men. From my male perspective, I was ok with a little weight. It helped me lift heavier, and helped me be stronger. I fit into most things and well, looked like a man. I did not wear fitted clothing… like most men, so it was not a real big deal. But, now as a woman, I do want to wear that tailored dress, and sexy skirt with a blouse. I do want my legs to scream sex appeal. Yes I do. I love that I do too. Because now I truly understand some of the pressures that our cisgender sisters faced everyday.

    I grew up with the notion of DIET. But there was always some new fad going around. The truth be told, Jack La Lane had it right all along. I used to watch him on Television when I was a kid. He started the fitness revolution as far back as the 40s. Diet without exercise is futile and unhealthy. Exercise without diet is futile and unhealthy. It is about a balance of both. Aging is a particular problem for many of us, and the changes in our needs are enormously overlooked quite often until it is too late and we face needing to shed 40 or 50 pounds all of a sudden because it crept up on us. What a horrible thing to have happen when you are trying to look as feminine as possible and your hourglass desire just turned into a pumpkin reality.

    And, please, I do not wish to offend anyone here. We come in all shapes and sizes. This thread was about that ideal, the female figure. The ideal one. But lets face it, we are women on the inside, and we want to present as one on the outside. It does not have to be about perfection as imposed by the ideal. It can be perfection designed to fit who we are today. And if we do not so much like that right now, we can find ways to change it over time, while currently enjoying and loving who we are today.

    I look forward to that loss of 15 pounds. Smaller arms, sexier legs. Yes I do. But that is my personal thing. I am willing to work hard to achieve it. I cant wait to fit into that little black dress too. But, I dont let that get n the way of how I feel today. I dont say to myself, hey I cant pass because I dont have a perfect body. I go out and get clothing that any woman without a perfect body would wear, and make it work for me now. But I remember not to leave my mannerisms and posture and poise and gestures, and my handbag replenish with lipstick and foundation, powder and all the other goodies, in the back room. They are the most important part, the essence, of being a woman. Without those, you are just a man in a dress.


  21. Georgia Davis 2 years ago

    I have a typical guy figure I guess but I am also lucky to not be 6′ tall. I am only 5’7″. This is an immediate advantage when trying to pass.
    If I want to wear jeans I always wear some padded knickers which also help keep my bits tucked away. They go along way to giving me a girly bum, especially with a pair of shoes with a medium heel. Say 2-2.5″.
    I then add a waist clincher. Depending on what top I intend to wear I will either just add a slightly padded bra to make me an A cup, or add boobs to take me to a B or C.
    I do own a couple of good quality corsets which are great if I want to wear a dress which requires a small waist. I can easily take 3-4″ off my waist and it helps to push up my small boobs too.

    • PaulaPlaytex 1 week ago

      Georgia; Just make sure that you “ALWAYS WEAR YOUR BRA”…I do and I feel naked without my Bra on !!!

  22. Jessi 1 year ago

    I am lucky – privileged – in that my body has always leaned more toward the feminine side. This is helpful in that women’s clothing and shoes fit well for me. I wear juniors and often am complimented on my ‘style.’ That being said, as it is for GG’s, I have to work on maintenance and enhancement of what I have been blessed with (now that I can see it as a blessing).
    First is what and, importantly, how I eat. Slowly…. slowly….I eat slowly. This cuts down on the propensity to overeat. I use lots of flavor in my food. For me, the flavor helps to satiate. I enjoy soups and salads with lots of greens. None of that iceberg stuff; rather, good wholesome mixed greens. I use lighter meats, like chicken and fish with lots of veggies included. All of it washed down with copious amounts of water and green tea.
    Second is working out. This has actually become a fun part of my day. I take long walks, power walks, light jogs. Anything to keep the metabolism up without and muscle bulk. Yoga helps me to stay flexible and lengthen muscle lines. The majority of my muscle building time is spent on hip exercises. You would be amazed how much glute work you can do flexing hip muscles on the daily commute.
    Posture is everything. Luckily, I have a natural hip swing (that was $#&& in man mode days) and posture helps that to come through when you need it to. It took work and conscious effort, but now comes naturally to maintain a tight core while walking. The tight core pulls the tummy in and adds a subtle shift to my hip position which is more like a GG pelvic position.
    The key is to find the secrets that work for your body.

  23. dwight Richardso 11 months ago

    Hello and thanks for all the advice it is helping me with my transition tomorrow im going to try the flat2fem program, i want to try to grow breasts the natural way . The breast forms are nice too and the shopping tips on your site are helpful. One day i will shed this man body and be a natural c cup lovely fingers crossed

  24. Holly ann 11 months ago

    Vanessa, I have a question to ask I enjoy dressing as a woman but the thing is why is it against the law for a man to wear a womans baithing suit even if it covers everything, I do not understand…………

  25. Tahlyia 10 months ago

    Hello Ms V, thank you for making me a part of the family. It Feels good to know that there are others out there that feel as I do. Dressing in female clothing makes me feel more of myself than anything else. Right now as I am texting you, I have on a night langere that I keep wash and wear every makes me feel not only sexy but, very happy.

  26. Cassie Humes 6 months ago

    Thanks for the information nice to know about these things and how to go about it

  27. Michelle Gonzales 6 months ago

    I am struggling a bit on whether to wear my hip padding or not.

    I love the extra shape it gives me but I have noticed most girls don’t seem to wear them.

    I wonder if it is real obvious I wear them. I do like the femme look it gives me.
    Silicon has been suggested but I worry about the medical tape holding up.

    Xo xo

  28. Any “shape wear” store should carry shaping panties with pouches to slip foam rubber pads in and out. I wear them…..terrific things….ones for bums too! If not look up Aliexpress on line . That is where I get most of mine….great prices and very reliable shipping…albeit a while.

    Lady Veronica

  29. Gina Angelo 5 months ago

    I have tried hip/butts pads but found them a bit too much upkeep (they slip and fall, constantly adjusting). I know have started with more in the butt department but hips – I am still a man

    So I created a lower body workout to enhance the parts of the hip that are feminine. I work out my lateral thigh muscles, especially at the hip/pelvis area. Also I focus on my hip flexors, the upper quad muscle to get that shapely curve that many women possess

    Is it perfect, no, but it has made a difference. I just found exercises, machines that make me burn in the right areas, and that was all. Recently I started ice skating again. Also works out hip abductors and glutes.

    Don’t know if it will work for everyone but I’ll keep you posted

  30. naomi cooper 5 months ago

    silicone hip and butt pads with a good pocketed panty girdle to hold them in place and a boned waist cincher and of course some awesome breast forms complete my look

  31. karley delaware 4 months ago

    I would leave that for personal photos, and not to go about town in as they can be uncomfortable. Having photos of me looking fabulous is all I would want from that. As for regular crossdressing, I just want to feel sexy in my clothes.

  32. vic gonzales 5 years ago

    Been too long! Fem Tonight. Lol!!

  33. Deadlywhispers_666 6 years ago

    Me too lol

  34. seha 7 years ago

    same here

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