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Fashions are a funny thing, and crossdressers are perhaps more beholden to the whims of the fashion fairies than most men. When men dress in women's clothes, there is something special about looking fabulous and beautiful.
The other day I was thinking - what if crossdressing was normal? You know, if you were just as likely to see a man in high heels and a skirt as a woman wearing a pantsuit. What is there was no masculine gender expression, no feminine gender expression. Would we still be crossdressers? In fact, would we still have the desire to crossdress?
Certainly there must be some part of the transgender experience which is about being unique, in our expression of who we are - the desire to be like woman, yet still knowing that we are a man.
Don't tell crossdressers they're normal
If you do, we just might agree. Many organizations, such as Tri-ESS, go to great lengths to remove the stigma from crossdressing. This stigma is entirely a social construct, created by our culture. There are theories as to why crossdressing is taboo - perhaps on a subconscious level it slows down the acquisition of a suitable mate with which to propagate the species?
Nevertheless, fashion will move forward. The brief rise of the metrosexual in the mid 2000's was a definite step towards a more socially acceptable way for men to express their femininity. Even if all it really meant was that you wore nice clothes and bathed more than once a week.
Socially Acceptable Cross Dressing
I wonder if the next fashion wave will see crossdressing as desirable and trendy? I hope so, but I'm not going to leave my skirt hanging in the closet waiting for it to happen...
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Metro came and - as you said - went. I think the term popped up in a New York newspaper, although the author said it was over as it began.
I think we're seeing a slow rise in male beauty products, but they're mostly for younger men.... and trannys 🙂
If the taboo did go away overnight - by whatever means - I personally would rather go all the way. Either be totally male in appearance or present as a female. But maybe I'm just weird 😀
Hehe 🙂
Sometimes I toy with the idea of going more androgynous - perhaps we're women's clothes with a touch of maleness. Perhaps a slightly feminine blouse, foundation, a slight touch of gloss on my lips...
Hi,
I would love it if crossdressing is in style. I love to dress in woman clothes. They are made better, and look better. XOXO
It's not right that women can dress our man's clothes any time and any place they like and if I would like to put sometimes pantyhose under my trousers then this is weird or I am a pervert or this kind of things, this is just not right! I like push-up pantyhose which shrink and squeeze, I like that feeling, when they rub against the jeans when put under trousers...why would that be more nasty or something than women wearing a necktie e.g. ??
It's a good question - why is socially acceptable crossdressing only applicable to women? Some have theorized that the inherent masculine society is more favorable to a woman wanting to "move up" into manhood than a man becoming a "second class citizen" in attempting to be a woman. Personally I struggle to understand this reasoning.
I'm of two minds about the desirability of socially acceptable cross dressing.
On one hand more acceptability would cause less stress, and facilitate a more comfortable environment.
On the other it would reduce one of the thrills, at least for me, namely, the taboo aspect of cross dressing. The sense that one is engaged in something that doesn't fit neatly into societies pegs.
I suspect that even if it gains wider acceptance a large enough segment of society would quite vocally frown on "everyday" cross dressing, and would exert enough pressure to restrict the practice. It would be great, however, for public outings to parties, select clubs, and in store shopping at a wider variety of stores.
So I guess all in all I would welcome a more enlightened attitude
towards it.
Possibly, if women continue making economic gains the change will come about sooner than any of us realize.
I agree, wearing pantyhoes feels great. It's just a shame it's not more socially acceptable.
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I would love to have a lot more outfits band heels I love being dressed this way it so had to take off I hope u all can help me find beautiful and sexy things to ware thanks
I'm a Straight Male Women's Shoe Fetishist Crossdresser of Women's Footwear especially High Heels. I so much wish I had the courage to just be Myself Totally, to the whole World. I only exposed my secret closeted lifestyle to certain areas and certain people who are not judgemental or negative. I was told that if I am ashamed of something, I should not do it. In my older years of age, I am not as of yet, totally out. Unless I get intoxicated & say F*** it, which I do periodically.
I wish that Shoes and Clothing, etc. were just that. Not Male or Female. But then, the power to wear Women's Footwear or whatever, would take away our expression of. being different from what the Norm dictates that we have to be.
I’m virtually certain that I will or would continue to or increase my crossdressing if it becomes more acceptable. The “forbidden aspect” is not the attraction for me. I just love the look of womenswear and the feminine form. When I get lazy, I let my weight and fitness slide. But the more I’m able to dress, the better my discipline, because a slender waist above my hips is a significant part of the allure for me. I also love wearing high heels of any sort. I’m amazed at the number of women who miss the opportunity to wear heels. As my daughter says, “Fashion isn’t about comfort!” I’d wear stilettos to the grocery store just to enjoy the rush. Can’t you imagine how femininity might escalate if we all shared a little bit of it. Just think of men and women together trying to elevate the beauty of “impractical” clothing!
FAM
I think it wouldn't be near as much fun if it was normal. I mean, if all the guys in my office regularly wore skirts, dresses, etc. then it wouldn't be much fun to do it. The fact that it is deviant is part of the fun. I don't want people to think I'm a pervert and dangerous to their children, or mentlally ill or have abandoned my faith (or any other stigma that you can imagine), but I don't mind if they think I'm weird or laugh a bit.
I wish for that day to come in my lifetime, while I have years to enjoy it. To me, crossdressing and appreciating feminine fashion by wearing it will always be unique because it makes me feel something.
If crossdressing were more acceptable, I would purge a lot of my male wardrobe, but still keep some male things I adore...like suits, sweaters, dress shirts. It would be so nice to have more clothing options. And I would gladly wear women's fashions that are a few years old because I'm a thrift store hunny.
There are some tasteful fashion photos if you search online for "men in heels" or"men in dresses".
More than being socially acceptable, my challenge would be getting my SO to accept me and changing her attitude. While I have supported all her fashion changes, she rarely supports anything where I look different than the guy she married. How ironic, being almost a "trophy" that won't change.
Would cross dressing be as fun or as significant if it was accepted mainstream attire? I think the taboo is part of the fun for some of us. When you look the pictures posted a significant portion of them are exaggerated images of femininity with large breasts, tight skirts, high heels and heavy makeup. I am guilty of all these images though if I go out in public I am considerably toned down. There is still a thrill involved with being "out" in public even as you try to blend in. A significant portion of us feel "trapped" in the wrong body and want to transition. Is this "cross dressing" or "true dressing"? Some of us are gay and are comfortable with a feminine presentation since it natural. Then there are those who are fully heterosexual but have a feminine side that must be expressed. I fall in the latter category and truly love to dress and enjoy going out in public though that joy has decreased since the emergence of total transphobia and homophobia by one of our political parties, particularly in my home state.
I think that if cross dressing were mainstream, the allure would go away for some of but the social acceptance for others would be a welcome development.
