Dear Readers,
I’m delighted today to share a guest article from a lovely lady on the East Coast. Her fabulous style is matched only by the charming and witty writing she does at SXYCDGRL. Please welcome her to Crossdresser Heaven, and share your thoughts in the comments below!
Do you dress to pass and blend?
Or do you dress to stick out ? What is your goal when you are crossdressing ?
Adriana is confident out dressed
For me, I guess it is a little bit of both, it just depends on the occasion. Where am I going ? Is it out into the vanilla world ? Or am I going to a wild CD/TG party ?
If it is out into the “real world” I do my best to basically blend in, I take my cues from real women. When out in public I feel the need to “represent” our community the best way that I can , so I dress accordingly & appropriate for the venue, weather, etc. I keep it simple, like this picture taken on a trip up to Boston, just some leggings, a plain tee, jacket & minimal accessories. I guess you could call that my “blend mode” When I am out dressed like this, I know I am not drawing any unwanted attention and I am confident. Dressing in what you “feel good” in seems to always win for me. If I’m not feeling right, it’s time for a wardrobe change.
Adriana rocks the femme
Sometimes though I really want to let my girl flag fly high, and I will have a little fun. Especially if I am headed to a big CD/TG event and I know the gals are going to be dressed for a good time.
Like this pic, taken at one of the big CD/TG Events in New Hope Pa called Raven. Here the gals throw an “Oscar Style” red carpet party, some dress to the nines in gowns, yet others will come in almost full fetish gear. So to me this seemed like the perfect opportunity to finally wear that Tu Tu Skirt I bought. And it’s a CD/TG party so why not have fun with it right? I edged up the outfit with a bold colored moto jacket, and my favorite chunky heeled combat boots to give me a funky grunge look. This is something I would never actually wear out in public, so sometimes at these events I like to push the envelope a bit. Am I belnding ?? Not at all. And there I guess it does not matter anyway, the point is to have fun at these events.
So in the end, I guess it depends on where you are going, and what you are doing. I cant tell you what to wear, but I can say that when you step out the front door, you are representing me, you, and our entire community so do us all proud and leave the fishnets at home when your headed to the mall. When you go out in public do you dress to blend in ? Or stick out ?? Ad your comments to the comment section xoxo.
Adriana is a blogger for SXYCDGRL & covers everything from makeup ,fashion & crossdressing tips, to crossdressing events & parties. You can see her features & articles on crossdressing here http://sexycrossdressergurl.blogspot.com/
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If you’d like to learn more about blending while crossdressing please read: How to Pass as a Woman in Public and 19 Tips for Passing in Public
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I have been passing (I think) since I was 16. My initial goal was to walk out onto NYC’s streets and be seen as just another girl going somewhere. Age-appropriateness has been a mantra. Never seek the spotlight — that’s for the celebs. Just be a plain girl next door . And it has worked wonderfully for more years than I like to think. There have been many women in my life who have given me direction and help, and I doubt I would be where I am today without them. My style has always been directed towards looking like… Read more »
Hey Joanne,
Sounds like you’re doing it right! Thanks for sharing your inspiration with others, in particular I like your emphasis on getting help and direction from the woman in your life.
Hugs,
Vanessa
I dress to pass I want to be accepted/recognised as female
I dress to pass always at home and when I go out. I always try to blend in as a lady and 99% of the time no one gives me a second look. One time I went to a wig and make up store as a man and purchase a new wig and the girls at the store had a good laugh. I went back the next day dress all the way with my new wig on and no one notice the ladies at the store said hello ma’am can I help you!
What a wonderful experience Sara! Kudos to you for having the courage to go back!
I always dress to pass. I go for the girl next door look and love to just blend in So far I haven’t been made and as long as I am being as feminine and not drawing attention to myself I haven’t had any issues. I try to be dressed like most of the women are dressed when I am out. Usually I am wearing a skirt and turtle neck top with a pair of low heels Other times I wear a pair of slimming jeans with a turtle neck top and a pair of sandals As long as my… Read more »
If I am doing everyday tasks I would try to blend in with the rest of the girls. There is no point wearing short skirts and high heels just to do the weekly shopping.
I enjoy dressing up and dont dress to impress anyone .I just enjoy dressing up and I have been told that I have better looking legs and a better looking body than a natural woman does………..
at home I usually were bluejeans and a casual top I have went to the grocery store that way also several times sometimes it feels like all eyes are on me its thrilling but scary at the same time I think that I should be easily be able to pass and no one has said anything to me maby its just all in my mind. I love getting all dolled up but olny have went out a couple of times an was with other genitc woman tring to blend in with them tring to act just like them. So far… Read more »
I’ve been cross-dressing since I was 18 when I started I would put on whatever I can find getting in my mother’s laundry . Having four older sisters also help . At 50 years old and have the support of my girlfriend and over almost 30 years of getting my face and hair right. Not having the purge everything has helped for me to have a large closet for dresses and things I like to wear .
Good and tight fitting is usually my go to look. Need to find put how to upload photos….
I have evolved in my dressing. I started out many years ago dressing somewhat risque. When I finally started to go to the malls and clubs I toned it down but was still slightly borderline. Now I agree fully that you really want to blend in but it can still be tempting to go a little bit beyond the societal norms.
Agree with some of the comments on here about blending in. When I’m out shopping its usually jeans and a nice top with flat ballet shoes but going out at night high heels sexy dresses very sheer tights . if you haven’t tried going out en femme just tone it down during the day , observe other women and what they are wearing copy them. The most important thing is confidence and remember no body is looking for a CD but you may get funny looks wearing a mini skirt and 4″ heels to the supermarket.