This week Ellen shares a beautiful story about accepting her crossdressing, and the wonderful friends that she has made along her journey. Thank you dear, for sharing the encouragement you’ve gained on your journey.
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Meet Ellen
I have been this way likely since birth. I have distinct memories since I was only four years old. I have followed the same trail as countless other TG’s have. The pleasure, the purgings, the abstinence until it hurts, and the comforts of returning to the dressing. I have finally disposed of all of the acts of denial and I have finally accepted no only myself, but more importantly that there isn’t that much wrong with me to be ashamed of. Part of my story?
Ellen’s Crossdressing Success Story
I lived through all of the same issues most of us have, thay are countlessly cataloged elsewhere. I am currently 57 years old and I have been relentlessly been searching for the kindred souls that could make my life complete. Can you imagine a lifetime without the ability to be actully free with any conversation? Especially about your own Transgenderism.
After making contacts through various “support Groups”, I made a pact with my wife to seek qualified therapy. This I did. I did not take long to realize that what I was wasn’t “wrong”, just not for everyone, if I really didn’t already realize that!
Ellen accepts herself and steps out in style
The single most important thing I did learn was that isolation is a very bad word. That is when a plan was developed to end it, once and for all. The plan, get out and find the right people who can matter.
Although it sound quite simple, where do you look? Through all of my searching and posting, I fell upon a site that many of us know, URNA. After a while of entertaining some internet friends, looking for some more local girls to talk with, I was invited to join a group central to the Albany NY area. Note, this is quite a distance from home, 140 miles. My work gets me there a couple of times every month so I was finally able to attend some meet n greets. I met some nice girls but not the ones I could be truely comfortable with, I was an outsider, some of you will know what I mean.
I persevered and attended one particular meeting month after month and continued to reach out. I kinda now feel like the treasure hunter who found a sunken galleon. I met probably three friends there , people I believe I could call friends, and subsequently almost by accident I met a few more, one turns out to be a UNRA friend who lives in Isreal part of the year, I think she will be my forever closest one. All of these “new” friends treat me like the no one ever has. I can finally be me. What a feeling. Actually, as I write this I am planning my next visit the day after tomorrow. My message: “Friends are the sugar that makes life so sweet”
An Update on 11/14/2009…
It has been a few months since I wrote about my life and I would like to mentiun that I now have three very dear friends, ones I mentioned earlier. I feel so close to them at this time that it is worth shouting that good things can come if one looks carefully and is patient. Rushing into a friendship will likely cause more pain than joy. It takes time and listening to gain trust and acceptance. I am truly happier than at anytime in my life, I expect it to continue for sometime.
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Ellen please email me we have so much in common. What a great story.I have found a great friend also who is a post op girl. She is absolutely stunning. We give inspiration to each other and no topic is off limits.We have such great times together. We go cloths shopping and just be ourselves. Through this experience I have directly helped another girl who didnt have a friend to talk to and needed some direction and advice. It is very difficult to be alone with no one to talk with about what you feel inside. This is what Ellens… Read more »
Dear Leslee, I never expected my story to ever be posted. As a matter of fact, I was a little depressed and feeling blue when I wrote it. I was feeling lonely. I have a short addition that I hope Vanessa adds regarding the value I hold for my few true friends. DO we have anything in common? I truly imagine so. I can speak of and discuss things that I cannot to any others. My best friends are ejther pre-op’s or non-op. It doesn’t matter. I will always be pre-op mself Doesn’t it make you feel so good to… Read more »
I just updated the post Ellen. FWIW, I thought your story was inspirational and heart warming – if you were lonely, you fooled me 😉
Vanessa,
Do you post all the crossdressing sucess stories or only some? Just curious.
Love,
Eve
Leslee, I thought you might have gotten my e-mail address, but of course not! I don’t have yours, so I will risk offering mine to you- prettyellen38@yahoo.com
If I start to get a lot of junk from this, I will need to change it. This is for Leslee’s eye only!
Ellen
> I can finally be me. What a feeling
I don’t think you can put a price on that. Thanks for sharing your story.
Amen to that! There is nothing as freeing and beautiful.
Dear Ellen and Leslea Wanted to say thanks to both of you Ellen seen and being close to your age, i think i can understand some of your thoughts. i know for me back when i started was before the advent of the Internet. i had no other resources or groups, other than a Domina that liked cross dressing and took me way beyond the underwear state. When i started going to new church and had finished school so had time for dating, stopped dressing because convinced myself it was wrong. Fast forward to now and all the info on… Read more »
hello lovely stories i to crossdress every day at home i been doing this for a lot of years i have a very femminon side that makes me want to be a lady as much as possible my problem is here in MILWAUKKEE WISCONSIN i am so lonely have no friends to share this with i sit home day after day after work dressed up with just myself i have to admit i am very sad never been out dressed except in my yard would love to find an join a club here for crossdressers to meet good friends an… Read more »
It’s like my story. I’m a crossdresser since I was 7. Buy and purge. Now I’m building up my wardrobe.I go for walks dress in female jeans blouse with bra andd panties on an some makeup. It feels good. Wish I could dress as a woman all the time. I am so jealous of my wife.
Good for you dear for finding the courage to be yourself, even if it’s just
on occasion!
Good for you dear for finding the courage to be yourself, even if it’s just
on occasion!
Hi Ellen I loved your story and could identify with some of what you wrote. I was intrigued that one of your friends is from Israel- part time. Well. so am I. I’m there half the year every year. I would actually be grateful if you could reach out to her and tell her she could have me as a friend. I go out as Abby every other week to the Open House in Jerusalem. I also have been to TG groups in Albany when I’m in the Berkshires. If you’re interested in helping us reach out to each other,… Read more »