There are Christians who ostracize the transgendered for being different. They say crossdressing is a sin. By submitting themselves to the will of the church, and fervently seeking God, a few of us have found freedom. Yet for most of us, no matter how hard we pray, how much we definitely want to be cured, how guilty we feel – we wake up each morning as who we are. A transgendered person. Not free, but shackled by the guilt heaped upon us by ‘loving’ and ‘well meaning’ Christian brothers and sisters.
There are other Christians who believe differently. Who believe that God loves the transgendered, and that who we are is not in. Many of these Christians have previously had the weight of the church’s disfavored poured upon them.
I believe, humbly, that whichever group of Christians we choose to believe, that there are dangers that lurk for us. If we submit to the first group, and label our transgendered-ness as sin, we label ourselves as sin. We do not accept who we are.. Then rather than let our light shine, we hide it under a bowl, trying to constrain our spirit. We live only the half-live of those who are afraid to love to much, or sing too loudly.
If we throw our lot behind those who accept and love us, we may be fooled into believing that our purpose is to be transsexual or transgender. In doing this we create a god our of our difference, and spend our days worshipping the desire to fully become woman.
Again Allyson has provided some insight for us.
I believe our challenge is to fully embrace who we are, while at the same time living for God. The transition is not an end unto itself, but a means to more fully fulfill God’s purpose in our lives.
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i for one would not be accepted if I came out and told tem I’m a crossdresser, which sucks because I rarely dress as a girl these days, I’m in boy mode all the time and then one day as i’m dating somebody from our singles group, i say “I’m one of THOSE people” (she knew I was talking about the Transgendered) she shunned me quick, and put out the flame and left me…saying that I was living a lie by NOT MAKING MY CROSSDRESSING PUBLIC… I dont want to be identified as “thats the man that wears womens clothes”… Read more »
It breaks my heart that those who profess to know Jesus rain down judgement as if they never needed a savior. I know there are also more nuances to a situation, but in my opinion it’s quite immature to expect you to share this part of yourself without trying to understand what it means to you, and why you’ve been holding it back. I also think it’s quite easy to tell how much she cares about you from her response – so that she doesn’t feel uncomfortable around you she would rather you live a life of misery. Coming out… Read more »
Alyssa, As a Christian you are wise to keep it to yourself. I am coming to the conclusion that crossdressing falls into the “permissible but not beneficial” category that Paul talks about. I would also not want to make a weaker bro. stumble. If by publically dressing you or I caused someone else to stumble we then would be in sin. At this point my advice for any Christian c.d. is this: Pray. Wear the clothes if you are going to but don’t obsess about it Then it becomes idolatry. Don’t try to pass in public because that is deceitful… Read more »
Wow Bill what a wonderful mature Christian insight into this most difficult of issues! Their is wisdom, courage and a love for the Lord inthis approach. well done goog and faithful servant!
As a crossdresser and a Christian it has been a struggle to try and control my need to wear womens clothes. I have tried prayer and to control my urges. By purging or stop cold. But the urges keep coming back. My wife knows and she does not mind. She understands my need to wear womens clothes. I am not gay but wearing panties etc. Seems to relax and make me feel better. I don’t go out in public just at home. Now that I have come to terms with my need to dress. I feel better about my life.… Read more »
PinkPenny, I have tried the same. It’s been a long, hard road for me to accept that who I am is who I am. It’s healthy that you’ve come to terms, and that dressing is just a piece of your life. That balance is good. Bless you and your wife for having such a loving, understanding relationship.
I am a born-again Christian & I LOVE wearing sexy lingerie every single night when I go to bed. Wearing lingerie greatly increases my pleasure. I especially love to wear corsets with panties & stockings. I became a transvestite at the age of 12 – just a few months AFTER I become a born-again Christian. It is not in any way whatsoever sinful for a Christian guy to enjoy doing this. In fact it is directly supported in scripture where John describes in the book of Revelation seeing an angel in HEAVEN wearing – guess what – a CORSET! Now… Read more »
It is called a girdle in the King James, which is not a corset or what you are thinking. It was a wide belt the men wore around their waste that they used to hold their garment in place, gird their loins, and carry items like swords.
It is good to hear the stories of others like me. I have struggled with this for most of my life. I started wearing pantyhose when I was probably 5 or 6 years old, and the desire never went away. I am fortunate to have found a wonderful woman who has accepted me and my wearing of pantyhose. I do shave my legs, and wear pantyhose almost everyday. I don’t try to be a woman, and have no desire to have a sex change. I am a masculine man who enjoys sports, and most other things the typical masculine male… Read more »
God Loves all .
It doesn’t mattter what you wear or don’t wear.
It really does not matter what you wear
But who You are.
Try to be like God,
Love all.
Bobbie
I am married and a crossdresser. I have an unbelievable urge to dress. She thinks it is sick plus we have had no sex for years. She said there is a problem down below. I am a very sexual person and being cut off at an early age has made me want to dress even more. Again she said it is sick. So I am in the closet very deeply. I have a chance to go and dress with someone and I am thinking seriously about it. I don’t want to quit on marriage as I do have a good… Read more »