Two weeks ago I wrote an article entitled why do men cross dress? and I asked you to write and tell me – why do you cross dress?
Thank you to all who responded, both on my blog and to my question in other forums. The responses fell into a few different categories:
- I cross dress because it feels natural, “right”. When I crossdress I’m less cranky and feel stress relief. I feel complete, liberated, content.
- I cross dress because I enjoy wearing woman’s clothes, with no particular desire to look or present myself as a woman. It’s fun.
- Woman’s clothes are more exciting, prettier, more colorful.
- I cross dress because I enjoy feeling feminine – presenting myself as a woman, behaving like a woman.
- When I cross dress it’s sexually exciting – I get a thrill out of wearing woman’s clothes
- When I cross dress I’m sexually excited by what I look like wearing woman’s clothes
- I dress because I feel I really am a woman inside, and I’m just dressing in the clothes appropriate to my gender.
In writing this post, I felt compelled to express how different we all are – we each cross dress for different reasons, enjoy different types of clothing, and have different ‘end goals’ in mind. Imagine my surprise at a recent comment on my last crossdressing how to post, which said something to the effect of ‘Not everyone who cross dresses wants to pass as a woman’ and ‘it’s too bad your outlook on cross dressing is so narrowly focused’. Yikes!
As my regular readers know, I try hard to avoid being narrowly focused on any particular denomination of cross dressing. I apologize to my dear reader A if I came across otherwise.
I wonder if there is more behind this though. I recently received an email from a transsexual who said that there are regular flame wars on a forum she frequents between transsexuals and cross dressers. Yikes! again! Has the transgendered community become so diverse that we spend more time focusing on our differences than our similarities? I hope not. It’s only together that we will be able to change the hearts and minds of the world. Only united that we will usher in an age of tolerance and acceptance.
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feels right!
After 15 years of marriage, I crossdress now because I have come to realize that I was born different, and not completely a male. After noticing that I had many female traits I started on my journey. I am now becoming happy again. Will it become more than dressing, that decision is for another day.