The other day I checked my Facebook inbox for the first time in many months. I was humbled by all the messages I’d received. Notes of appreciation, cries for help and heartfelt longings from many who want to share a small piece of their transgender journey with me. I also felt guilt in knowing I had left those cries for help unanswered for too long. Intellectually I know that I’m only one woman, blessed with just twenty four hours each day. Yet my heart aches for all those needs I was unable to meet. For all those beautiful souls I could have soothed. For those wonderful woman I could have laughed with and cried with.
To all of you who have sent me a Facebook message, or email that I have yet to respond to – I apologize. I started Crossdresser Heaven for you, you deserve more than a never ending replay proclaiming, “We’re experiencing unusually high call volume. All operators are currently serving other customers. Your call will be answered in the order it was received”.
If anyone in the Crossdresser Heaven community has ideas for how I could be more efficient, or better scale the ability to serve those in the transgender community please comment and let me know!
A Transgender Scholarship
Now for some exciting news I heard about last week. The Gender Alliance of the South Sound is offering a transgender scholarship to an outstanding transgender student. The scholarship offers at least $500, but could be more depending on available funds. This is a tremendous opportunity to get financial support for your education. I know that it can be hard finding support as a transgendered woman, and I’m excited about this step by the Gender Alliance of South Sound.
If you know of any other transgender scholarships please comment and share!
May the light of the day yet to come shine brightly enough to banish the demons from the shadows of today.
Blessings,
Vanessa
I am currently living a lie. I’m a married man but I dress in my wife’s clothing whilst she’s shopping. I love her but I also wish I was her.
I love suspenders, lace panties, lace bra’s and anything made of silk.
I don’t know what as i have started wearing my wife’s panties to work, it feels soooo good.
How do I stop this, I just want to be normal.
Please Help
Please help.
Stealing your wife’s clothing is a big no-no. Go out and buy your own. If you are too embarrased to buy thenm in a store (I was, for a long time)
order them onluine. Y ou absolutely MUST tell her about it, though, but not until you have washed and returned all of your wife’s things. Believe me, she already suspects something is up, because she knows what underwear she should have in her drawer at any one time. WOmen know these things – and right now, she is really worried that something is terribly wrong. YOu have to tell her, and you both have to discuss it without rancor or defensiveness. Simply explaini to her that you feel this compulsion, but don’t even know yourself why. And always, aalways, always, reassure her that you are still the man she married, and that you still love her just as much as always – perhaps even more, now that you have shared this very intimate secret with her.
VAnessa – no apology needed, Honey. There are only so many hours in any given day, and you are only one – or maybe two
people Dear, so don’t beat yourself up.
Love ya, Girlfriend.
Elizabeth
Elizabeth, thanks for your support dear!
Rosey, while it’s natural to want to cure crossdressing, many many have tried and failed. You can’t cure what is an innate part of who you are, only bring heartache and pain by rejecting yourself. I’d encourage you to spend some time reading through the articles on Crossdresser Heaven, and perhaps buying a copy of “My Husband Betty”, which is a great book for learning about your transgendered nature.
anyone out there willing to help Vanessa? I would love to be available to help out when you get overloaded. What can we do,dear friend? You have given so much to all of us, I’d love to be able to give back a little bit. Love, Ragina
Hi Vanessa
I use to have a HUGE website, actually 5 of them. It gets to be a bit much after a while I know. What I did was essentially I would sit down and just do ONE thing at a time. I also got that I had stock answers and links to answers that I had before. Example, you have articles on many things that have already answered so many people questions. I found it easier to write an article and refer people to it than to rewrite the same thing multiple times.
Another thing is to only answer when you feel up to it otherwise you will cut corners and feel like shit afterwards.
Ok so make a coffee or tea etc, sit down and make the decision that this is YOUR time to answer stuff. Then set a goal of say only one hour [or two] then stop fora break for five or fifteen minutes then return. You simply MUST take a break, as this truly is work and you will burn out if you do not treat yourself properly.
Next, find someone that can handle some of the basics of question. Maybe even having then go over the letters you get first and sending the ones to you that they feel not able or not willing to answer. This way the work load is split up for you.
The other person can maybe do link referrals. By sending them to articles that either you or someone else has written. Like on another website.
Also only look at emails on Monday, face book on Tuesday, twitters on Wednesday, emails again on Thursday,,,, like that. This way you can concentrate on one thing at a time.
I had a separate email account for each of my websites. Some I got 10 and others I got 50 a day. Whe I tried to do them all I got over whelmed, but when I bit it off in pieces and limited myself I found it manageable.
I hope this helps you out
Stephenie
Thanks Stephanie for your advice.
Ragina, thanks for the offer dear. Let me think a bit about your offer – would you be willing to help answer questions that come in by email?
Hugs,
Vanessa
wonderful site I love it
Thanks sweetie!
wonderful site I love it
Thanks sweetie!
Thanks sweetie!