Facebook is a wonderful tool – it allows us to stay connected to friends and those we love, we can find groups of like minded folks for fun or support, and we can waste hours farming virtual crops. Okay, so the last one doesn’t necessarily fit the description of ‘tool’, but there’s no question that Facebook has been a boon for those in the transgender community seeking comfort, support and a sense of belonging. There are thousands if not tens of thousands of transgender woman on Facebook, and hundreds of groups dedicated to exploring all aspects of the gender spectrum.
So with that I’m excited to announce that Crossdresser Heaven will now let you comment on posts Facebook style. I must admit it’s been a bit of a rocky road with trying to get a comment system that is easy to use and at the same time lets you build personal connections to aid you in your journey into the feminine.
Transgender Women – Stay Safe On Facebook
For many of you who aren’t out, crossdressing remains a private pursuit and friendships are sought anonymously on the Internet. Facebook by it’s nature, however, is social and personal and interconnected. Without a degree of care you could inadvertently expose yourself.
I’ll share a quick story, of a caring woman who posted on my wall asking for help with her husband’s crossdressing. Not 15 minutes later a friend of hers responded in shock to her post ‘really, he does this?!’. And just as quickly she deleted her comment – my heart breaks to think of the consequences that followed this revelation.
As wonderful as Facebook is, you need to understand what happens when you interact with it:
- Like: When you press the ‘Like’ button on Crossdresser Heaven (and other websites), Facebook will show a note to all your friends that you like this
- Commenting on Crossdresser Heaven: You have two options. The default option will post a comment, and share your comment with your friends on Facebook. You can uncheck ‘Post on Facebook’ to just leave a comment on Crossdresser Heaven. Your comment will still include your profile picture, name and a link to your Facebook page.
That Sounds Complicated, How Can I Do This Safely?
If you’re concerned about sharing your crossdressing pursuit with friends and family there is an easy step you can take to prevent this from inadvertently happening:
- Download another web browser (I highly recommend Google Chrome and Mozilla Firefox)
- Use this alternate browser for all your femme forays
- If you share an email address with a family member, get a new one for your femme side (Gmail offers free email addresses)
- Create a separate profile on Facebook for your feminine identity, and only ever sign in to this profile using the alternate web browser
- Follow Crossdresser Heaven on Facebook – okay, this won’t make you more secure, but you’ll get great crossdressing tips, stories and encouragement 🙂
That’s it – you no longer need to fear that the errant like or comment will expose the woman inside. Of course, if you’re comfortable sharing with friends and family, by all means go ahead!
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