When I hear a song that speaks to my heart, I tend to relate it to life experiences-both my own and others’. The other day I was listening to a group singing one of my favorite Simon and Garfunkel songs, Bridge Over Troubled Water. The song is an allegory about life; how we live it and how we navigate the eddies and rapids we all pass through.

When you’re weary, feeling small
When tears are in your eyes, I’ll dry them all (all)
I’m on your side, oh, when times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down

All of us have times when we just get tired of the fight and feel alone in our struggles. For me, I’ve had several periods in my life when I felt that way. When I first realized I was “different” than most guys, when my marriage fell apart, when my parents and both brothers passed away, and when all but one of my sisters became estranged from the rest of the family. In each of those instances, I felt like no one in the world cared about me or my struggles; I was wrong, because in each instance a friend helped me by encouraging me and reminding me there was still much to live for and hope for the future.

When you’re down and out
When you’re on the street
When evening falls so hard
I will comfort you (ooo)
I’ll take your part, oh, when darkness comes
And pain is all around
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down

Many of our members have gone through their own difficult times-losing family, losing jobs, even losing their homes. Some struggle to meet even the basic human needs of shelter, food and companionship. Life overwhelms them and threatens to sweep over them like raging floodwaters. But again, in the darkest times, a hand reaches out to them-helping to lift them from the darkness of their thoughts and shining a sliver of daylight into their seemingly hopeless lives.

Sail on silver girl
Sail on by
Your time has come to shine
All your dreams are on their way
See how they shine
Oh, if you need a friend
I’m sailing right behind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind

Each of you here on this site has been that friend to me or to someone like me-a person who is coming to love and accept themselves after decades of self-deprecation and dismay over what lies in our future. And because of that, I and others have been able to realize that our lives-long hidden in the shadows are about to burst forth in a beautiful sunrise. It’s the beginning of a new dawn in our lives where we can let our light from within shine. The combined brilliance of thousands of us as we achieve our dreams can illuminate the darkest corners of the world to help others rise up to be true to their souls. All our dreams are INDEED on their way and we can ALL be that friend –to one or to many. BE that bridge over troubled water! What a glorious world we can make together!


PS-After writing this, I got a PM from someone who felt discouraged and ignored. All I did was reply to them with a note of encouragement and empathy…it took just 5 minutes. But that reply made that person’s day-just knowing someone cared enough to reply. Do YOU have five minutes?



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skippy1965 Cynthia

The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own. Update January 2023- the above was written by Vanessa on my behalf back when I joined in 2015. So much has happened on my journey since then. From a shy CD who had hardly been outside as herself to being pretty much full time Cyn 24/7 now. I told work about me and started HRT last year. Everyone knows about me in my life now too. I've socially transitioned for the most part but not sure if I will do anything regarding legal name or any surgeries at all. It's taken mea long time to accept myself for who I am but the site has helped me reach that level of self-awareness. I say dating below but that's just the best status I can say. I have a friend who is very special to me that I HOPE will be more a life companion as time goes forward.

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Stephanie Flowers
Active Member
4 years ago

To give a compassionate word to someone who needs a voice of comfort is so important as one never knows when you may be the one in need of special word’s of encouragement and support. True very true cyn as your wing’s are always there embracing the one’s who need it the most. A true friend indeed. Stephanie

LaWren Peace
Active Member
4 years ago

Perfect timing for me, Cyn, I sure needed that today! It reminds me that people, both here on CDH and in my local life, care about me. They love, support, and accept me just as I am. Knowing there are these bridges will get me through and ease my mind.

Karen B
Trusted Member
4 years ago

What a beautiful, meaningful and well written article.
You are a wonderful person, and I’m so glad I had the pleasure of meeting you in person.
Hugs, Karen

tammy baxter
4 years ago

Skimpy Thank you for your article bridge over trouble water it was
Lovely and it made cry hugs Tammy x

AnnaBeth Black
Active Member
1 year ago

Hi Skippy; I love this article! I’m pretty new here but I was so overwhelmed with emotion when I finally joined this group after stopping by for 3 years. To find that there were others who felt like I do was very comforting. The kind greetings and welcoming comments were so helpful. I still don’t know we’re my journey will lead me but I feel safe and happy to be here and the kind souls here have been a bridge over troubled water for me and I hope I can do the same for someone else in the future. AnnaBeth

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