As I get older, I am becoming more and more determined that I should be true to myself. That being said, I am still very cautious about who I share my feminine side with. As a result of my personal confidence and acceptance of who I am, I recently told the two young ladies who work for me about myself. I have since received enormous acceptance and support from both of them. It became a necessity for me to tell them, as wearing makeup every day was a little conspicuous and I felt more comfortable with them knowing. I also dress 90% female. For example, ladies jeans, socks and sneakers with a generic polo top. Mostly, only I know the clothes are women’s and the general public really don’t notice.

Once I had told my staff, one of the girls said she that she had noticed the makeup before, but didn’t want to say anything. She has become my biggest supporter since that day. We now share tips about clothes and makeup. I now also have someone that I can confide in and share my struggles of being a cross dressing business owner, in a small town. We are become good friends and I send her snap chat photos and receive encouraging replies. Recently, she cleaned out her closet and gave some of her old clothes to me. Granted, she is much younger with different tastes, but none the less, I was able to find a few things that I enjoy wearing. She gets the biggest kick out of seeing me come to work in a pair of jeans that used to belong to her. One day, she even asked to borrow my lipstick that she knew I kept in my desk drawer. I believe that I have a very special friend in her now. For my birthday this year, I was so surprised and delighted to receive a Victoria’s Secret gift card from her. Just the Best Birthday Gift. Ever!

I am a gym owner and often start my day with a work out along with my associate before the day begins, something we do often. I almost always, always wear a bra under a tank top – my workout shirt. Sometimes the strap will show, and I often just let it show when I am in the right mood. However on many occasions she is gracious enough to discretely tell me and to save me from embarrassment.

All this brings me to the real subject of this article!

We work so hard in trying to be sure we keep our ‘private’ side hidden. When in reality, the thing we want most of all, is for EVERYBODY to know. Telling and showing people, can bring massive amounts of personal joy and satisfaction. Few of us really want to stay hidden in the closet or only dress in the privacy of our own homes. And a common thread that I have read in articles and posts, about having the courage to go out. Once you have found the courage and confidence to do that, there is no turning back. The best thing that can happen for you is to find a local support group and take part in their events. I have been out fully dressed on a number of occasions and find it gets easier every time.

And so, to the final point! We can find ourselves living in a state of dilemma. We fear people finding out our ‘secret’, yet we want to tell the world about the real person that we are, some days. I can tell you from personal experience, that having one or more people that you can confide and share with, who you really are, is the one of the most liberating and energizing things that can happen to you. Make no mistakes, it is quite scary to tell people. For myself, I have found that the risk is out weighed by the worth of the reward.


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I am, like so many others here, a long time crossdresser. Now, as I pass 60 years old, I realize it's not going away, and I don't want it to. The more I get to know Emily, the more I like her. πŸ˜‰
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Kim Paige
6 years ago

Thanks Ashleigh! Very inspiring!

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Stephanie O'Sullivan
6 years ago

Hey Girls, I too have been letting my long hair down, and a couple of my female customers have been very supportive of my femme side, even giving me some of their extra clothes. I wore a very pretty dress one gave me to her Thanksgiving dinner, her husband thought I looked nice!
I get tremendous Love and support from mostly the women I see weekly at the Farmers Market and it fills my heart with Joy to get that Love and attention.
Love & Light,,,,
Stephanie O’.

Tsbella Swallows
Tsbella Swallows
6 years ago

Mom caught me at7 in a dress again at 10 and asked me why I told her I feel complete this way Sat with my dad they excepted me that way got me girl clothes my brothers love me as their sister grew up in skirts and dresses after school the neighbor boy seen me and hung out with me till they moved away 5 years later he was my first male kiss and other stuff now my wife knows stepdaughter I told both of them they love it my best friend of20 years now found out last month he… Read more Β»

6 years ago

ive told my wife a long time ago and last christmas we told our 3 daughters and son all are happy for me and the girls and i have a girls night every week just love it . ive been getting braver going to the store been there 3 times now and the last time i was in line and the casher said mam to me and said lane 1 is open i felt so happy and then she turned to help a nother couple and never looked back

Demi Gurl
Demi Gurl
6 years ago

Ashleigh I am kinda in similar position. My story is a bit different in that due to a condition called adhesive arachnoiditis from a severe injury my doctor put me on hormones to coat the nerves and reduce the extreme pain. Little did he know that I’ve always know since childhood 4 to 6 years old that I knew I was a girl inside. So when I started taking the hormones those feeling boiled over so powerfully that I had no choice but to come out and begin my transition. I was injured at work so what they know is… Read more Β»

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6 years ago

Demi – I guess you could say you are unlucky (arachnoiditis) and lucky (hormones)? Before I got married, I lived with a woman who was very supportive of my dressing. She provided me with literature, made dresses for me and accompanied me out. I’ve given a great deal of thought but I’m not sure about transitioning? She finally convinced me to go out dressed and the first time it was the thrill of my life! I never lost that thrill every time we went out and I was “en femme". What a joy! We went many places – shopping, to… Read more Β»

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