As I get older, I am becoming more and more determined that I should be true to myself. That being said, I am still very cautious about who I share my feminine side with. As a result of my personal confidence and acceptance of who I am, I recently told the two young ladies who work for me about myself. I have since received enormous acceptance and support from both of them. It became a necessity for me to tell them, as wearing makeup every day was a little conspicuous and I felt more comfortable with them knowing. I also dress 90% female. For example, ladies jeans, socks and sneakers with a generic polo top. Mostly, only I know the clothes are women’s and the general public really don’t notice.
Once I had told my staff, one of the girls said she that she had noticed the makeup before, but didn’t want to say anything. She has become my biggest supporter since that day. We now share tips about clothes and makeup. I now also have someone that I can confide in and share my struggles of being a cross dressing business owner, in a small town. We are become good friends and I send her snap chat photos and receive encouraging replies. Recently, she cleaned out her closet and gave some of her old clothes to me. Granted, she is much younger with different tastes, but none the less, I was able to find a few things that I enjoy wearing. She gets the biggest kick out of seeing me come to work in a pair of jeans that used to belong to her. One day, she even asked to borrow my lipstick that she knew I kept in my desk drawer. I believe that I have a very special friend in her now. For my birthday this year, I was so surprised and delighted to receive a Victoria’s Secret gift card from her. Just the Best Birthday Gift. Ever!
I am a gym owner and often start my day with a work out along with my associate before the day begins, something we do often. I almost always, always wear a bra under a tank top – my workout shirt. Sometimes the strap will show, and I often just let it show when I am in the right mood. However on many occasions she is gracious enough to discretely tell me and to save me from embarrassment.
All this brings me to the real subject of this article!
We work so hard in trying to be sure we keep our ‘private’ side hidden. When in reality, the thing we want most of all, is for EVERYBODY to know. Telling and showing people, can bring massive amounts of personal joy and satisfaction. Few of us really want to stay hidden in the closet or only dress in the privacy of our own homes. And a common thread that I have read in articles and posts, about having the courage to go out. Once you have found the courage and confidence to do that, there is no turning back. The best thing that can happen for you is to find a local support group and take part in their events. I have been out fully dressed on a number of occasions and find it gets easier every time.
And so, to the final point! We can find ourselves living in a state of dilemma. We fear people finding out our ‘secret’, yet we want to tell the world about the real person that we are, some days. I can tell you from personal experience, that having one or more people that you can confide and share with, who you really are, is the one of the most liberating and energizing things that can happen to you. Make no mistakes, it is quite scary to tell people. For myself, I have found that the risk is out weighed by the worth of the reward.
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