Crossdressing women should do what they love

For the last few weeks it seems as though the only crossdressing related activity I’ve engaged in is moving Crossdresser Heaven to a new server (phew!). I haven’t had much time to wear womens clothes, let alone write any new articles. When I sat down the other day to write another article I realized just how much I miss writing. And how much I enjoy it.

I had been letting the busy-ness of life get in the way of something I love doing. Even though I could probably have made some time, I found I was much better at making excuses – I’m too tired, I’m not inspired, nothing has happened this week worth writing about. On and on the excuses came. I was sabotaging my own enjoyment.

As I was thinking about this, I realized that we all do this in regards to crossdressing as well. My advice to you is to do what you love…

Even if you love wearing womens clothing!

We seem to find even more reasons not to crossdress. There are the all too common trio of guilt, shame and unintentional discovery. Once I moved past those, I encountered such debilitating excuses as “I feel fat” (sheesh – woman’s plus size clothing is out there if that’s really a problem). Then another favorite of mine “It’s too much work for one day / weekend”. One would think wearing woman’s clothing was a chore reserved for … well … women.

As I’m listing out all these excuses I forget how much I enjoy it. I’ve sacrificed what I love for a plethora of lousy excuses.

So girls, get out there and have some fun! Don’t stop yourself from enjoying this gift you’ve been giving!

P.S. If you are struggling to come to terms with your desire to crossdress, I highly recommend Helen Boyd’s book – My Husband Betty. It’s one of the best books I’ve read yet on crossdressing and the transgender experience.


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I’m passionate about creating a safe space for everyone in the transgender community to find laughter and friendship on their journey. I completed my physical transition in 2011 and through it I lost everything, and gained everything. I am blessed that I was forced to gaze inward and embark on the journey to discover and live my authentic self. My deepest wish is that all who wander here may find peace, happiness and freedom.

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Lynn Jones
Lynn Jones
15 years ago

> enjoying this gift It may not feel like it at the time, but I think it [being TG] is a gift. As you wrote your last line a few memories drifted into view. There was a spoof called ‘Trannyspotting’ which contained the line: ‘I chose something else.’ Laughter and choice aside, it rings true. We are different from your typical man (not better; just different) and that makes our journey through life start on a different track. I’m also reminded of an interview with a lady who ran a dressing service. She said that having seen her clients go… Read more »

14 years ago

I wear women underwear most every day I feel real good when I go to VA for something. I was in Army 3 yrs and was a Drill Sgt. I stiil don’t think anyone knows or have seem me dress up. I had 2 wifes over 27 yr. it was hard to get dressed at that time. I live by my self now so I can dress the way I fell on any given day. That I’m HAPPY about.

7 years ago

love the stories wish I had the time and guts to dress up more often weekends are my only time to have fun family time also is important so that even gives me less time but I enjoy the time I do have in my lady outfits

7 years ago

Thanks to this site
And reflection
I m dressing again

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