Now that just sounds crazy, but is it?

The one who approaches you with a venomous hatred is in fact the one who has been abused. They are the one who is truly inside the cage because they have given up their mind and allowed others to fill it with their own projections and beliefs.

And the sins of the fathers are visited on by the fourth and fifth generations, unwittingly.

Our deepest beliefs about ourselves and others on this planet are handed down to us by well-meaning teachers, like well-worn clothing passed on from generation to generation. Watch out for bad people; be weary of this kind of person; never play with fire and so on.


In my little family of origin, I was taught to distrust and be cautious of almost every other “kind of person” other than the ones who fit the perfect-person construct of the day.

Our DNA carries this encoded information in every carbon particle and cell our physical body is made up of, and of course, as our parents did, we also hand the same beliefs and DNA codes on to our own offspring, the next generation.

There were so many beliefs I recall hearing and rebelling against in my family; I witnessed such judgment and contempt for different people as a child that I chose to begin my own investigations even while still in school.

After I left school, I toured the continent playing drums and singing country music; I practiced bull riding; I bought a Triumph motorcycle and was able to hang out with real live Hell’s Angels. I have taught school, college, and facilitated life skills groups and sessions. I also created my own suffering for years with cocaine and various other abuses and had a suicidal mindset. Yet today, I am more authentic, genuinely happy, and more financially abundant than I have ever been; I made some different choices for myself.

To step out of the matrix and think for yourself is one, big key to inner peace, one step toward ending your suffering permanently. How you think, see, and speak of you to others matters.

There is nothing as rare as the one-of-a-kind you. There has never been or ever will be another you.


Every morning, each of us is faced with a question we must ask ourselves. When I crawl out of bed today will I allow the old negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs to continue to be my reality about myself and others or is today the day I intentionally and consciously choose what I think, feel, and do?

Before I set a foot on the floor every morning, I set a deep desire inside me. I decide what I am going to practice as best as I can for the day—Fear or Love? What I will think like, feel like, and act like this day; I then set foot on the stage of the day and begin practicing that desire. Some days the desire is to experience deep gratitude. Other days it’s to experience abundance of the many things I call “good;” what do you truly desire? I practice feeling deeply loved often because this was not something I was taught as a child to do, so I’m making up for lost time!

I find that each day I choose to practice thinking, being and doing life from a desire to exercise kindness toward myself and others, the more in turn I experience kindness for me and more inclusivity than ever before.

Hitting the reset button gently this week and choosing to practice being the change we want to see in the world will give us each the opportunity to continue growing a kindness culture.

Perhaps we may have inherited some nasty beliefs and presuppositions of ourselves and the world that have caused us to suffer in some way, but today… we get to choose what we follow! Does that belief strengthen you? Or weaken you?

I choose peace, I choose kindness; as best as I can express and experience it fully.

Thank you for being exactly who you are!




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Dropping out of high school I began touring in the Canadian country music scene at age 17; clubs and soft seat venues, drummer/vocalist for 22 years. After 4 suicide attempts and heavy cocaine etc addiction issues, i decided to learn Self-Acceptance as apposed to self-hatred. I became a student of the Universe and an Instructor of Life Skills at a local College while operating a Private Coaching Practice. Currently, I am rebuilding the Life Coaching practice after a couple years of more personal work well under way. I am also creating online opportunities that will serve our world community…and our world in understanding how the learned life skills of Intentionally and Consciously Creating an Amazing Life have filled my life with Passion, Purpose and Prosperity and they can for you as well... Namaste'

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skippy1965 Cynthia
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4 years ago

“ There is nothing as rare as the one-of-a-kind you. There has never been or ever will be another you.” True statement and for the safety and peace of mind of the world probably a good thing! Idk if Th e world could stand two of me! LOL But your points are valid. I do think there are some good things about inheriting some attitudes-it helps with personal survival at times-but as you said always with a critical review in our own heart and mind as to the validity of those attitudes. My own parents were far from perfect(though I… Read more »

skippy1965 Cynthia
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4 years ago
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You’d have liked him; I don’t know anyone who met him who didn’t like and respect him.

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4 years ago

It’s always good to be reminded of these things. We are all up against so much each day it’s hard not to lose perspective. Getting married and having a child have given me a lot to stay positive about, despite all the pressures they bring. However, living life all over again with a little one sends me into a very negative place, one that makes me re-evaluate everything that had been projected on me. A lot of members of my generation were forced to put on a mature mask very young that made us feel « above » rébellion from our parents.… Read more »

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