Girl friends and wives want to know.
Why do men cross dress?
Why does my husband cross dress?
How can I make him stop cross dressing?
The unfortunate truth, is that there is no simple, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article, and the debates on this topic would be silent.
In my personal experience, the fascination with woman’s clothes started when I was very young. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to great lengths to procure and then wear my mom’s nightie. My most vivid memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of pantyhose from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants.
I felt (and still feel) a need to wear woman’s clothes, and I can’t quite explain where it comes from. The media like to think of cross dressing as a sexual perversion, and so naturally they see the desire to cross dress and purely for sexual gratification. The problem with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to cross dress I didn’t know what sex was.
Many cross dressers I’ve asked describe the need as ‘feeling more comfortable wearing woman’s clothes’. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to be seen as a woman. To not just dress like a woman, but behave like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a woman. There are others who cross dress for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum.
That still doesn’t answer the question why do men cross dress?
Marcy proposes a few interesting answers to this questions.
One argument is that transvestism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a challenge to society’s preconceptions about gender. Some men cross-dress because they are unhappy at being men. Others didn’t mind the male state, but also like to put on women’s clothes occasionally. Some men cross-dress simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the comfort that wearing women’s clothes gives them.
Yet the true reason why men cross dress remains somewhat of a mystery. It is intensely personal, often confusing and sometimes guilt ridden. I’m hopeful that as society grows more tolerant of diverse gender expression we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to justify their behavior, and no longer shamed by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this baffling question.
Comment and let me know, I would love to hear- why do you cross dress?
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I’m a man that really wants to dresses up as women i do that a lot.
Why like dressing up in women’s clothes because i want be a female since i was 10 yeatrs old i like putting on dresses to show i want to be a girl not a boy i still got hopes that someday i can realy be a female full time female too i don’t mind going shopping for new fashion clothes, that includes panties, bras, shoes i now a wedding dress, and maternity clothes that is how much i want to be a lady i enjoy it too.
I’m not exactly sure when it started, but I guess I’ve always liked the feeling of “girl’s" clothes on me. Last Halloween, I completely crossdressed as a school girl with my girlfriend and I really liked it. I liked how I looked in the pictures we took. She made me feel really good about it, too. She told me that she was bisexual, so I guess we were meant for each other! (haha, me a man who likes to dress as a girl and her, a girl who wants both a man and a girl.) I went to an anime… Read more »
When women go back to their closet I will go back to mine.
What do you mean by “bad things" in our lives? Maybe you want to rethink how you feel about him in a dress. I’m not judging, I’m a genetic male and I’m wearing a skirt right now myself. But there is no one else in my life being affected by it. I know from personal experience about the “playing around" my second wife knew about my secret. But although she approved and was happy to “play around" on the outside, she really resented my enfemme personality. and it came out in the end believe me. Think deep thoughts honey, you… Read more »
Since the age of 5 I’ve had the same need, if you will, to dress in female atire. However, while in University some researchers believe that, for the most part, it’s due to a lack of male hormones during that important stage of pregnancy. To some, the trans area isn’t cut and dried, black or white but one very long gray continuum from the occassional cross dresser to the post op trans-person. In my experience, I tend to agree having spent a great number of hours with some of the most wonderful people I’ve ever met. But it doesn’t make… Read more »
IT is so much fun to dress as a women thats why i do it i love the escape of it all women are so beautifull and some men want to experience that for themselfs .I love to spend hours transforming into cherll it is so cool to compare my male side with my female side it is so awsome i have taken pics of me in the same pic with me one as cherll and one as don i love it i dont look anything like the other person on the pic . now i must admit i would… Read more »
I am ill and I have xxy and I know the percentage of femininity in my body is strong and I know what I do and I like to wear women’s clothes and all that go to the PSN BuyXiae go to the women’s section
I have been with my husband for twenty years and just found out he likes to wear women’s lingerie. I feel lied to. He was wearing my clothes. I knew someone was. I thought he was cheating on me. I’m relieved he’s not. Although I still feel betrayed. He knows I’m very liberal. Now that I know I want to understand it. I don’t care if he wears women’s clothes, just not mine. He will need to buy his own. He also said he would like to be a lesbian. He thinks it would be cool. That I’m NOT ok… Read more »
Lets face some reality here my friends. 1. womens clothing, even though they may be of the same basic material, are designed softer with better tailoring. 2.larger assortment of colors and fabrics,styles etc. 3.Many under garments serve functionaly to support the legs, back ,and other areas much better than the bulky items designed for men. 4. even heels offer benifits for aching feet and hips,and lower back, as most shoes nowadays have no arch supports. unless you can afford expensive items. 5. If you ladies have any doubts, get yourself a good fitting outfit of mens clothing from the skin out,and… Read more »