GIRLS, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!
From a child we are taught that girls play with dolls and boys play cowboys and Indians, or race cars and other manly things. Girls can wear makeup and boys shouldn’t. Society points us in the direction that it thinks we should go. That’s ok. The problem doesn’t lie in where they think we should go. Which slot we belong in. What we should wear. How we should speak. That’s all things that our parents do as responsible adults. That’s basically what they should do.
The problem actually lies in the day we start to think differently. Questions we ask ourselves through the years of our lives after our very first experience with cross dressing. Why do I like girl’s things so much? And thinking, “What’s wrong with me?” So many years of our lives spent feeling like something is wrong with us. Like we don’t fit in. Afraid someone might see this side of us and destroy our lives by telling just one person. As we know, because that’s how society works, that’s how it all starts. Then the ridicule starts. In our heads it’s all over. We have to move now, or worse.
We live a double life. One of which very much hidden from all those that we know and love. Hiding who we are inside. Feeling guilty for deceiving our loved ones. Feeling that part of us is held down by those closest to us. The urge to break out is bursting at our seams but yet we suppress it.
At some point we might have to tell someone, this is who I am. Praying not to be judged but tired of holding it in. As our pressures build, any number of things may occur. Questioning ourselves, “Will I be able to even pass as a girl or a woman?” “My shape isn’t where I’d like it to be.” There are so many variables that cause self-doubt in us. The ultimate question being “WILL I PASS?” Or “I WOULD IF I COULD PASS AS A FEMALE.”
Here’s my take on it. And this is something that I never really thought of or considered before. I was that girl. Will I pass?
Here’s the thing. You will pass. Who says what you’re supposed to look like or what size and shape you’re supposed to be. I mean just look at the various sizes and shapes of genetically born females! Wow, what a difference from the largest to the smallest females out there. Wow, what a difference between the prettiest and the no so pretty females we see each day. Just look at the difference of the ones who know how to perfectly apply their makeup and the ones who don’t have a clue! Here is the most important thing… If you feel inside the way that makes you feel good on the inside, then it will be portrayed on the outside. Be you. Be confident. Smile like you are the happiest girl in the world, no matter what. Be nice, be polite. Have fun with being who you are. Most people will see this side of you and just go with it. Saying to themselves. He/she looks happy and doesn’t mind being seen. And that’s how they’ll say it in their head.
Let me share some experiences I’ve had. I have been out there online. Playing games online mostly and doing so as a cross dresser. Most people didn’t say anything. They just wanted to do what they do. Some would come on and get nasty. I would just be nice the whole time. Explaining that it takes so much work to look like this that I didn’t see why it had to bother them. Let me tell you, I would nice them to death! The end result? Most became friends of mine. That’s right, friends. In fact, a few began to hit on me. No, I’m not joking. Other times, well after I was known, if someone rude came on, the others would come to my defense. I would never have to say a word. Yes, girls – this really happened. No this is online and not in real life but the actions were there. People ultimately welcomed me. The fact that we pass or not is only in how we act. Believe me, you pass. You may not look like a model like some of these girls on here do. God knows there are some gorgeous girls on here but, that doesn’t have to be you. Just be you the way you are. The girl inside, regardless of what you look like on the outside in full up girl mode. Let everyone see who she is. Let them meet her 100%. That’s who you want them to see, isn’t it? It can be dangerous, yes. That’s why real girls don’t always go out by themselves. I’ve seen girls out and in a crowd. Did they pass? Huh, by what standard? I’ll tell you this – they did. They did because they didn’t care what others thought. They were their feminine self and can I tell you, I was proud of them. And I saw how it wasn’t so hard. Your inner girl is there inside of you. Just be her. People will not worry themselves about her. Those that do, just ignore. The more you ignore them or be polite and nice in your response to them, the more that they look like the “freaks.”
Do you pass? Of course you do. In your heart, in my heart, you absolutely do. Why? Because girls, You Are Good Enough!
- Girls, how many years did you stay in the proverbial cross dressing closet due to having to hide the feminine side of you for fear of your wife or significant other finding out about your thrill of cross dressing?
- Did you ever reach a point of some really deep shame or guilt which caused you to purge or toss out everything you owned related to the feminine side of you? And if so, how many times have you purged since you started cross dressing?
- If you have come out of that cross dressing closet and have told your wife or significant other the entire truth about your thrill of cross dressing, what was their initial reaction to the breaking news and what limits are now, if any, placed on when and where you are able to fully cross dress?
Thank you girls so very much for taking the time to read my article and please feel free to offer up any responses to my article or to one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you above!
With much love, Baily