Society likes clear boundaries. Black or white. Gay or straight. Male or female. The relentless desire of society to categorize and sort. Placing each of us into nice neat boxes. People struggle mightily with the concept of a third gender. The idea that someone is in between a man and a woman. Gender society does not like to think of the transgender. In spite of this new social gender constructs are created to categorize the third gender: you’re a crossdresser or a transsexual. Yet the categories strain still, so more must be constructed: pre-op transsexual, no-op transsexual, post-op transsexual.
And on it goes, until we realize that there is no third gender. Just like there is no third race, but a spectrum of diversity that scares the gender society in it’s breadth of difference.
In this wonderful video Kit reminds us that,
“There may be as many as a million genders – just floating around waiting for the right person to snatch them up, put them on and proudly parade around in their new skin. Unrestricted by layers and identity, or limitations of society or culture or social construction. See, this new gender is a function of inner desire and genuine understanding of self to be lived.”
My thought for you today is:
There is no third gender, only gender
A beautiful melody of human diversity
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Vanessa is a happily married 30 year old transgendered woman from Seattle. It's been a long road to acceptance for her, despite the fact that she has been crossdressing for more than 25 years. Sometimes, when she looks in the mirror she longs to see the girl that lives
within her. 
6 Comments
I, agree with your thinking i am also a cross dresser and my wife says i change when im dressed up. I think in a way i can be more myself without the rough edges! Its like a gift you can use to express your other parts…..
I have a saying that I use in my sig on a few transsexual boards
“Gender is a spectrum; Male and female are the end. In between lie every conceivable combination and permutation.”
Joanna, well said dear.
Hi im pete I have been crossdressing for as long as i can remember and i have always wanted to do sex work i feel like a woman and i know sex work is named a bad job but i just feel its what i would be good at why do i doupt myself.
pete
Pete, I encourage you to reconsider dear. There are many other ways to feel like a woman. Sharing an intimate moment with someone who loves you will make you feel more like a woman than a year of sex work.
pete, i so agree with vanessa. i live in the midst of a major city and see the hurt and destruction that is in the sex industry. so many lives wasted when there is always someone speacial that will care and love you. seek this instead