I have a dream. I’d like to see society move beyond gender roles and and become genderless. In such a world, you could go out in public wearing clothing which allowed you to be yourself, and people would respect you for being yourself.

In the animal world, there are examples of non-binary gender everywhere. I believe homo-sapiens used to be this way several thousand years ago, and there are still some places in the world where there are multiple or non-binary genders. It is only in the last few thousand years it seems, that  rigid gender roles have been created. I don’t want to touch too much on why this happened, because it may have a lot to do with one or more of the three forbidden topics we try to avoid here at CDH.

There are four components which make up how an individual is perceived in our society.

First is biological sex. This is is what makes up your chromosomes. It is NOT binary. There are the predominant two: XX (Genetic Girls or GG’s), XY (Genetic Boys, or GB’s). In addition there are a whole alphabet soup of others: X0, XXX, XYY, XXXXX, XXY, XXXY [3].

Second is gender identity.  Draw a line between male and female. Put the line anywhere in a 3 dimensional space. Imagine there are an infinite number of points on that line between male and female. Choose a point. This is the gender you perceive yourself to be. It is also not binary. You may feel 100% male, 100% female, somewhere in-between, or not even on the line.

Third is gender presentation. This is how you want the world to perceive you if you were to be yourself outside of gender roles. Some may wish to present in a way which agrees with your gender identity, and others may present in ways which differ from their gender identity. Again, there are an infinite number of points to choose from between masculine and feminine gender presentations.

Fourth is preference for a mate; so-called sexual preference. Again there are no invalid choices here, just an infinite number of possibilities.

Given all of the variance afforded above, each one of us is truly unique. We should be proud of that fact.

I am beginning to see something stirring. There has been a lot of talk recently about our community in the news, and in popular culture. I am hoping that my dream of a genderless society will become true someday, and that I’m still around when it does.

There is much work left to due to realize this dream. We need to enlighten the general populace that our community is made up of people which are just as important to society functioning normally as other members of society. We need to tell our children that it is OK for girls to play with trucks, and boys to play with dolls. We need to show that we are not just some obscure sect in society which can just be ignored. For too long, mainstream society has treated us like freaks, ridiculed us,  or committed acts of violence against us. Maybe, just maybe, this is starting to change.

 

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Stephanie Q

I'm a techie who crossdresses. I wanted to dress when I was in high school, but could not. Once I could afford my own apartment, I started "experimenting". First it was nylons and heels, and it quickly progressed to skirts and dresses.

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I have a didferent take
Do want genderless or acceptance
That there are multiple genders
And infinite combinations and presentations of that
I think we want the latter

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zena simmons

Yes that would be great dream to come life to be able go bout dressed within ourselves but as always somewhere or somehow there’s gonna be someone doesn’t like it or disargrees with what your doing possiblely trying hurt us and be wanting us out of way it’s best we carrie on way were doing or direction going in}zena

Bobbi
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If someone doesn’t like the way I’m dressed, they can “love it, or shove it”!
I’m not here to be aesthetically pleasing to some chest pounding Neanderthal!
This girl won’t EVER hide in the closet! What does bother me, is when people pull their children closer when one of us approaches. We’re NOT going to EAT your children!!! 🙁

zena simmons
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By way girl’s don’t mean leave y’all in dark I would post my pic or more but can’t seem figure out how put on here]zena

Lucinda Hawkns
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that would be great would with out gender issues, then we can come out of the closet and dress up and go out just like women would. show our feminine side and how we also can be pretty. i would love that so much just to go out and be happy with out having people see me and call me names or what ever the case may be, so what we dress up as females. woman wear manly cloths

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I would love it if we could have our own gender and no one would worry about it if we like to dress then we should be able to dress and no one should say anything about it you go Stephanie

sarasue olson
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Where has society gone so wrong? Up until the 1920’s young boys were dressed in cute dresses and pink was the color for boys and blue for girls. at about 6-8 years old boys were breached, put into pants. Look it up on the internet you will find it very interesting. It would have great to start life out dressed up like that! But we can still enjoy wearing our girly things, it helps us find our feminine side that we all share, some try to hide from it, but those of us that embrace and enjoy our softer side… Read more »

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