Hi Girls,
I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.
For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.
Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?
Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.
Love you all! Be safe and take care.
Love,
Trish
Hello Trish,
Yes, I feel the same and totally agree with you. With age comes maturity and experience. I started going out en femme more regularly when I was in my forties. I also dared more like being more out and about and traveling. I would love to grow my breasts further and if possible without hormones. I also would like to become part of a like-minded group of CD, trans and cis ladies in my region.
Hugs from Europe, Sandra
I have the same sentiments and as I grow older I feel I have missed out on something life is so cruel. But I am making the best of it
Overwhelming yes to the desire of dressing! Right to the point of daily after work till it’s time to head back to work. I refrain from working enfem because of my 85 year old employer, she wouldn’t understand! I ended up working for her after her husband passed away from cancer 2&1/2 months after he found out! My main job is to help keep her happy and do as much to take care of her rental units that she never was involved with! Otherwise I would be in girl mode most of the time and the older I get I… Read more »
It sounds like you are her Angel Missy. What a wonderful fulfilling thing to do.
I’m glad you enjoyed the article.
Love,
Trish
It is very much the majority here.
..I do wonder, what ‘is’ this phenom??? Why this sudden emergence?…Is it just that men feel they missed out during their generation and are now a little more comfortable with showing the side of themselves they were otherwise unable to, due to the toxic restraints of the societal-era they grew up in? …Is there a sexual-curiosity that emerges with age???…Anyone below 40(ish) is in the distinct minority here. It is a striking imbalance…
Not that I have any problems with it, it’s just very much an evident shift within the senior generations.
x
Whew! This topic is the closest I’ve read to my own question; “why would I start Dressing so late in life?” I started Dressing at the age of 59. It started with an fluke encounter with a pair of black suede stiletto ankle boots. I don’t have a childhood story. I grew up with a house full of older sisters. I honestly don’t remember ever wanting to wear their close or try their shoes. I’m now in my 4th year of Dressing. When I started I knew almost absolutely nothing about women’s clothing, sizes, names … I didn’t really even… Read more »
I think you’re probably the exception in beginning cross dressing so late in life. But, better late than never :). Your feminine side must have been very very deep inside. There are a lot of the mature girls that are still in the closet though. I wish you well in your new beginning with femininity.
I didnt discover fem until i was 37. Ran out of money and clothes so i had no choice. Now i have to be fem a lot!
I’d luv to hear/ read your story
You never came back to share????
Hi David, sorry I noticed your post was to Michelle so ignore my posts.
Absolutely, For many of us we spent over half a lifetime working six or seven days a week. We come home every night, drink a beer, and fall asleep. When the children finally pack up for a shot at there own fortune, you find your self with a little ME time. Back to the actual question. Does the desire increase? Biologically, as we get older we make more estrogen and less testosterone …simple as that. This helps us grow breasts and “unfortunately" bellies while sex drives usually crash. What a better time to throw on a bra and a dress… Read more »
I loved your reply Teri and it’s true. I did put on a lot of weight (220 lbs) and grew man boobs. Then with eating properly and exercise I lost 70+ pounds and best of all, kept my boobs so I think your comment regarding estrogen is accurate.
Love,
Trish
Trish
I wish you didn’t live on the other side of the “rock" from Wisconsin. I think there is a little kindred spirit going on here. It sounds like we would get along great. Maybe I’ll come west to fish Steelhead Trout near you. I’ll be the one with waders, size D floatation devices and red lipstick. Hugs, TERI
Hi Teri, I’m not a fisherperson but some friends are and apparently there is great steel head fishing at the end of Kamloops Lake. They also say that you can fish a different lake every day of the year, all within an hours drive of Kamloops. I guess it doesn’t get much better than that :).
Hello Trish. I also agree with you. I am in my fifties but have wanted to dress for years but restrained. I have a bit and shaved my legs which was cool and lovely but I want those tights around my legs and those skirts to be who I often feel. Take Care. Rachel X
Hi Rachel, since writing the article I am truly surprised at what a change comes over most of us as we age. Being CD’s maybe it’s our late life crisis 🙂
I don’t think my desire to dress has increased–But my Fear sure has–Wife died a couple yrs ago & now with only one income & the fact that I work with the public–I’m more afraid of losing my income because there is no cushion if I’m without an income even for a short time- Without my wives’ Moral & financial support- I’m a little lost-
That is sooooo sad Jane I’m so sorry to hear this. I sure hope things turn around for you honey and you hook up with another nice understanding GG. Fingers crossed for you dear.
Love,
Trish
The older I get the less tolerant I am of things that inhibit my ability to dress. I have the advantage of my wife having caught me about 5 years after we married and she, over the years, has become accepting of my need to express my feminine side. That means way back then, I didn’t have to hide my feminine wardrobe. Since then I’ve had lingerie in my dresser, dresses, skirts and blouses hanging in my closet. About 25 years ago I started experimenting with women’s clothes that could pass as men’s. I started with shoes. I bought penny… Read more »
It’s really amazing how the responses have gone. I kinda figured that I was right, I couldn’t have been the only one. But I am really surprised at the number of girls that have experienced a burning desire to dress more and more femme. You definitely are in the majority Patricia.
Hi Trish, I have observed the same thing in myself and within the CD/TG discussion groups that I have frequented over the past 13 years. With each passing year (no pun intended) I have felt the interest and the need to live more of my life as a woman, and in the process edged farther out into the open, Like you, I have thus far chosen to forego HRT. I have come out in fits and starts, primarily to former co-workers and a very small number of family and friends. I can’t speak with certainty, even for my own reasons… Read more »
The passage of time and fewer days was one of the big ones for me for sure. Once you’re past 60 you really do start thinking a lot about your mortality.
Cheers,
Trish
True. I also wonder if, perhaps, declining testosterone levels play a role. I know I have always (like since early childhood) dreamed of dressing and living as a woman, but with each passing year that desire seems to have gotten stronger. It may just be coincedence that as my T levels have dropped, I feel less constrained from expressing my femininity.
That is totally true and not a bad thing if you’re a crossdresser.